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To not give much of a shit anymore?

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Gravelady · 31/03/2023 23:04

Hello all, am pondering things tonight and would like to know if there are other people who feel the same as me. I am 35, happily married and have a DS. As I have gotten older I am starting to give less and less of a shit about well…most things. Besides my family and very small amount of friends I just have zero time and tolerance for anything else. I don’t care what people think of me which has never been like me. I was always a people pleaser, running around for everyone, a good friend and got pretty much nothing back and now have reached a stage where I could quite gladly say piss and walk away (which I have from many using swines over the last year) I do what I want, if I want to cancel plans because I am not feeling it I will and I have stepped back from making so much effort with people. Is it meant to feel this liberating? Is this normal? I just love being in my beautiful home and enjoy reading my books of an evening I just don’t care for going out here there and everywhere socialising.

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Gravelady · 01/04/2023 09:47

DustyLee123 · 01/04/2023 09:11

I also say no a lot more now. I enjoy being at home, walking the dog, drinking a milky coffee. And I enjoy my work a lot more since I dropped a day and decided to just do what I’m paid for, nothing more.

I think that’s really important you know doing what you’re paid for no more. I have only just learnt this! Used to do so much unpaid and go above and beyond!

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slowquickstep · 01/04/2023 09:57

Perfectly normal. Enjoy the freedom x

Orangesandlemons77 · 01/04/2023 10:03

I feel the same, am a bit older than you but keep getting Shingles which I think is due to stress. Now I have this pain and tinnitus where it was on my face / ear and it gets a bit much speaking and listening at times.

EmmaEmerald · 01/04/2023 11:19

Your later posts make the first pretty redundant.

I'm sorry you had a nervous breakdown. I had one too in my early 30s. Nothing to do with being a people pleaser - I've never been that - and my friends and family got me through it.

Gravelady · 01/04/2023 11:31

EmmaEmerald · 01/04/2023 11:19

Your later posts make the first pretty redundant.

I'm sorry you had a nervous breakdown. I had one too in my early 30s. Nothing to do with being a people pleaser - I've never been that - and my friends and family got me through it.

Well you know how it feels then!

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EmmaEmerald · 01/04/2023 11:40

yes, I do know how it feels.

I thought your initial post was " I can't be bothered with friends anymore".

I get puzzled when people post something completely different to what they mean, but regardless - hope you recover asap Flowers

uncomfortablydumb53 · 01/04/2023 17:04

Same here but after I turned 50

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