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WWYD - teacher / outside school issue

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HeyDiddleDumplings · 30/03/2023 22:18

WWYD in this situation. I’m annoyed and what to advocate for my DC8 but don’t want to act on impulse and overreact (which I can do).

A week ago my DS was at football training and they played a warm up game and my DC won. They have a new kid who can’t play, isn’t involved in any sport, doesn’t try, doesn’t look interest, can’t kit a ball etc. This child (let’s say child A)got upset and angry at loosing and walked off to their parent. The parent said children had been upsetting their DC and said it was a bullying. Coaches said they didn’t witness anything like this but would keep aware. DS told me tonight that his teacher had pulled a bunch of kids together and told them that some people had been unkind to a child at football and not to do it.

Child A’s parent works at the school so I believe had spoken to the teacher and teacher had acted on it.

My DS feels upset and let down by this. He feels this is about him (winning the game), that he played by the rules and won fairly. He’s worried the teacher thinks bad of him and isn’t on his side.

tbh I feel quite similar. This isn’t a school issue, it happened outside and this parent had brought it into school using their position of working at school. The coaches said no unfair play or bullying. The teacher didn’t give any child an opportunity to discuss anything or give their side. And if they can’t do that they why bring it up.

Would you say something to the teacher or let it go?

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Greensleevevssnotnose · 30/03/2023 22:23

Sound like they were just reminding everyone to play nicely. Your son wasn't picked out especially

Mumma · 30/03/2023 22:31

How do you know there hasnt been anything said to child A?

Yabu. Reminding kids to play nice is not unusual. If your child came home in tears im sure you would want it acted on.

HeyDiddleDumplings · 30/03/2023 22:34

Yes I’d want it acted on. But surely that’s asking what happened? This isn’t happening at school, it happens we once outside of school with a wide bunch of children.

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WhatWouldHopperDo · 30/03/2023 22:36

I don't think this is appropriate. The teacher has taken other DCs Mum's word about something she didn't witness and doesn't have anything to do with her.

Of course if something happens in school it should be dealt with but not this.

If the Mum was unhappy about something that she says happened at football, that is the place to address it.

HeyDiddleDumplings · 30/03/2023 22:37

Mumma · 30/03/2023 22:31

How do you know there hasnt been anything said to child A?

Yabu. Reminding kids to play nice is not unusual. If your child came home in tears im sure you would want it acted on.

Yes you are correct. I can’t be sure nothing was said to child a. Only going by the coaches who said nothing had happened.

on the other side, there’s nothing to say anything was said and child just wasn’t upset about not winning.

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