Making A Micro Wedding Special....

[Prangie]

I am 'best man' for my best friends wedding, except they are actually having a meal for 8 of us in a posh country hotel a few days after the wedding. Neither want to have a big 'do' for numerous reasons, but she said she would like it to be 'a bit special.'

I have a few vague ideas and hoped Google would help me find some more, but a lot of them are quite tacky or too attention grabbing for a restaurant.

They love dogs, outdoors, and expensive wine.

So, hive mind, can anyone suggest anything that might help or at least inspire...?

Thanks in advance!

Is it in a private area in the hotel or in the restaurant with other customers? If private you could do tons and tons of flowers and candles to make it look really beautiful and maybe someone playing some music live lie piano or something?

Even in the main dining room you could ask if you could bring special flowers/decorations the table?

Iced cake? Limo to take them there? Bottle of champagne? How much do you want to spend?

No, it's in (I think) a corner but not terribly private. That would be beautiful if it was more private though (and I did wonder about similar and realised it wouldn't work.) Unfortunately it's not quite private enough to get away with being too obvious, if that makes sense. I was also wondering about things to do before and after but then realised it sounds a bit hen do-ish! They'd get into it (we wouldn't be really loud) if they'd had a few drinks but I'm not sure otherwise.

The plan is a walk, then a break and checking in, then drinks and then dinner at 8. Probably drinks after - in a sensible way, I mean, not a piss up kinda way!

I am looking at table ideas now, one's that look good but are also personal to them.

Please keep any ideas coming, even one's that might not work can sometimes inspire ones that do!

Thank you

@Greensleevevssnotnose we are going with them in their car, and they are pretty comfortable so those won't quite work, but thank you for replying.

If you are staying then champagne and chocolates in their room. You could ask the hotel if they would create a special cocktail just for your group. Other than that you are right difficult not to go too tacky! Perhaps some just married balloons for the table.

A cocktail for our group is a fantastic idea!

I am glad you agree about it being hard to keep it low key, but lovely and not tacky. I thought I'd be easy before I started to think about it properly!

Have they asked if there is a private space they could use. Would be so much easier if you knew you had some private space.

what about drinks outside in the evening after. Do the hotel have anywhere you could set up outside with fairy lights or a fire pit?

im just thinking of ideas I like now!

I am not sure about private outside space, but can ask! Great idea. It's somewhere they know well but I don't so I am basically going on what's on the website.

Wine tasting with the meal? Or great cheese and expensive ports for afters? If you are not staying at eating place get a classical car to pick them up to taxi them back (was in a city for this one )

Picnic or just some drinks on the walk? you could stop half way and have some drinks.

Agree with previous poster about having something in their room - chocolates / champagne, maybe some balloons or banner in the bedroom too.

A mini guest book you could get the guests to write messages in beforehand and present it to the couple at the dinner table.

Love the idea of a picnic on the walk, or at least a few bottles of something they like and some glasses for some impromptu lovely maybe scenic pictures (I'm getting married next weekend and I've invested in one of those Polaroid instax mini things for this purpose) Maybe ask the chef to make a pudding specially for them (even names in chocolate or similar is better than nothing) If you attended the wedding but speeches aren't their thing perhaps just a few short words saying how lovely it was and thank you for being part of the select few for the meal (and wedding if you did go) I'd definitely let the staff know the occasion when you get there if they don't already as they will surely go the extra mile knowing its such a special occasion. Sorry can't be any more helpful, it's a difficult one! Good luck.