I just feel rubbish – please be nice.

[Justlovecandles]

I feel like I just cant seem to get a break at the moment!

My husband left me 18 months ago. I’ve had to buy him out of our house so I’m mortgaged up to the eyeballs. My roof is now leaking and it will cost 25K to replace which I haven’t got. I met someone and started seeing them 6 months ago and last night he basically said he hasn’t got time for me and we broke it off. I've totally misready this as I felt like he really liked me. I also fell out with one of my other friends 2 weeks ago as her daughter was bullying mine and it didn’t go down well when I tried to confront her. And I’ve just had a lorry driver shout at me in my own road and made me reverse all the way back down so he could get through – and I ended up reversing into a fence.

It all just feels a bit much but I need to hold it together as I’ve 2 kids and I’m meant to be taking them on holiday next week.

Hand hold please.

<Big unMN hug>

It sounds as though you are trying to do too much too soon.

Don't worry about the bloke you've been seeing; sounds like a rebound and he knew it. You should be prioritising your children and yourself.

But why are you going on holiday if you can't afford it? Just don't.

Is your ex contributing to family finances? CMS?

The lorry driver sounds like an arsehole, no need for shouting, but it would be easier for you to reverse than him. It's not his fault you hit something. But it's also not the end of the world.

PS: Give yourself a break. Can you call a mate for a moan over a coffee?

That all sounds shit, I’m really sorry. Have a wallow then make a list of what you need to do for the holiday. Think about how lovely it’ll be to get away!

Poor, poor you, that sounds like enough for anybody.

Can you just hunker down for a few hours/days til you feel ready to face the world again?

The leaking roof ? Is it possible to get some temporary repairs which are cheaper? I lived in a house and for years it was buckets under the leaks.

I hope the holiday helps.

Sorry you're having a shit time OP. Won't home insurance help with the roof?

I booked the holiday last year.. it’s all paid for.

i’m waiting for another roofer to come and see if he can just patch things up and then I might need to sell the house.

Ive just made a brew and will sit for a couple of hours before school pick up
and try and pull myself together.
I just can’t stop crying!

I tried that and they said no as it’s a maintenance issue