Will it ever come back?

[Chaseandrace]

My libido that is. NC as I'm very embarrassed about this.

In my early 20's I was a rampant rabbit. Would be up for anything and had many sexual partners where the sex was just AMAZING. I was a borderline nymphomaniac to say that least.

Fast forward 7 years, I'm in a LTR with a very loving partner, perfect in every way and I'm very attracted to him. But my vagina says otherwise! I just can't get turned on for the life of me and my libido has hit rock bottom. We've tried everything we can in the book and I'm starting to pull my hair out as to why it's changed in the last couple of years. I dry up immediately and don't feel that 'excitement' when he touches me, sometimes I feel uncomfortable and quite shameful and would rather avoid it.

I've heard testosterone can fix the issue? I'm only mid 20's so hoping I'm not doomed!
It's really starting to upset me and hoping somehow, this can be fixed.

Are you on hormonal contraception?

Hi Twizbe, I came off the contraceptive pill around a year ago to see if that was the case. Sadly it's made no difference.

Are you on any medication?

A medication killed my libido for a year after I stopped taking it once.

Nope, not on any medication. Just so unsure what to do. Is it me or him..

Him.

Newness is a huge turn on.

Might be time to move on?

How is your relationship in general OP? Any inequalities that may be breeding resentment?

Do you get turned on by other men ? Do you masturbate ?

Yes and yes

Absolutely fine. Nothing to complain about. Just the sex is the issue

Then it's him. The spark is gone.
Get it back or get someone else.
or live without one.

I think you probably need to talk to a doctor and / or a sex therapist.

How long have you been in the relationship? Could it be related to the fact that it’s a LTR & somehow that is causing you to put up some kind of barrier?

Been with my DP for 6 years. The last three or so years my libido has been dropping and dropping.

We considered this, but I'm not sure that would even solve the problem? What do you talk about?

You said you get turned on alone and by other men. It's not this. It's him and you. This happens all the time.

I don't have personal experience but a doctor who specialises in women's sexual health (you would have to go private) would be able to run tests to see if there is a medical reason. Sex therapists specifically work with couples to identify the emotional reasons behind relationship problems. It is worth considering if you are serious about saving the relationship.