Moving for better careers with DC - WWYD

[Pifflepuffin]

Would anyone share their experiences of relocating long distance (200 miles +) for careers?

I'm stuck in a shit part of the UK where jobs are just SO lame. Everything is NMW and its just so 1999. Bleak as fuck.

There are lay offs everywhere.

DH has suggested we move to the City 250 miles away for a brand new life with the DC. I've just checked the job market and there's hundreds of vacancies, decent pay and even part time / flexible hours (part time is unheard of here!!)

But we have DC in Primary School. Am I'm a little nervous about moving them. They have had their friendship groups since nursery and our local secondary school is actually really good!

Anyway, I'm torn and need a kick up the bottom. I need to feel that zingy, fizzy, excitement of something new and exciting!

(DH works remotely so he's already sorted job wise! In fact he'd be closer to clients if we moved!!)

Anyway, WWYD or what did you do?

It’s good for children to move! Face novel challenges, reinvent themselves, make new friends, experience the excitement of discovery. What’s important to them is your attitude - they’ll take their cue from their parents so if you communicate that it’s a fantastically positive adventure they’ll accept that as being the case.

And their futures depend on you and your DH being able to offer them the best childhood you can manage. Honestly, it used to be perfectly normal for families to move for better opportunities. The fact people seem to do so less often now is simply evidence of our perilously stagnant economy and loss of social optimism.

Do it! I’m actually excited for you.

Thank you SO much @MetaDaughter for this. Such enthusiasm!!

DH and I used to be so adventurous when we were younger and we moved around loads for exciting jobs. The freedom of renting meant we could be wherever we wanted 4 weeks later! But when we had DC we bought a house and settled down. A bit too much, it seems!

Time for something NEW!! 😁

I'd do it too. Think about it this way - if there' not much for them where you are, then for opportunities your kids are going to have to move on their own after their good secondary school experience. If you're not inspired to stay, don't just stay for them. They are going to be adaptable at their age!

Yup … Try moving a truculent, unwilling teen … Disaster. Whereas at primary age they’re not daft enough to say they’ll move out and stay with a friend.

I would definitely move in that situation. Primary age is the best time to move anyway. Just make sure that you're near to a good secondary school in your new place.

Why not start another thread where you ask what it's like to live in the new location?