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Almost five year old - social skills

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Springishere2023 · 29/03/2023 10:47

I have a 4 year old DD who will be 5 in a couple of months. She's great - a really lovely, kind, friendly girl. She is also very social - not really one for independent play, if we go to a play park or soft play she is often keen to make a friend and have someone to play with, she'll chat to people out and about etc. This is all good, however, I find she can be quite intense/over the top when interacting with people. For example, she'll introduce them to her stuffed toy and then proceed to hit herself over the head with it while laughing (I'm guessing to be funny), or she'll put on really silly voices while talking to them so it's actually quite hard to understand her, or she'll just jump up and down in excitement. People smile politely and kids normally just stare. At nursery she'll make a lot of effort with other kids but they sometimes look past her when she runs up to say hello. She's often desperate to show off her toy or snack in a 'look what I have' way which I guess can come across as boasting. She's trying so hard but I guess putting people off when she's so excited/over the top. Previously I've just ignored it/modelled polite conversations etc because she's so young and I didn't want to discourage her from being social and friendly. But I'm aware that she'll be at school soon and worry her enthusiasm to have friends may actually be working against her. Is this 'normal'? I fear not as I don't see that many other kids doing this? Any advice how I can help her?

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NikkiandMini · 28/11/2023 22:36

Hello, my daughter is like this! I'm wondering if you ever got any help with it or if anything changed?

Springishere2023 · 29/11/2023 06:49

@NikkiandMini - this was an unexpected reply, and interesting for me to read back my post 8 months later! Now I think about it, I haven't seen her do some of the things she used to do for a while (e.g. hitting herself over the head with her toy and laughing when meeting someone she wanted to play with). A lot of those behaviours have calmed down a bit. She is still a little over the top sometimes compared to some of her other little friends, but I explain to her that other people might not want a hug so how about saying hi etc. Since she started school she has made a couple good friends who actively seek her out when she arrives at school and run over to say hello so that's lovely and reassuring for me. Speaking about friendships and how to interact with people has become easier as she's got that little bit older.

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