How to do a small wedding?

[Lillliesss]

And include everything/everyone!

me and my fiancé want a small (abroad) wedding with our nearest and dearest. This is easy for me because my total is 12 people - small family and circle of friends.

however, he has a bigger family and bigger friendship group

so his dilemma is , to include everyone in that group, he’d have to ask them to come abroad where we want to do it and feels a bit… cheeky? Asking those he isnt the closest to and their partners to pay to come abroad. But he can’t leave them out and just invite his best friends of the group

we want to venue search soon after we’ve picked a place but I just wonder did anyone have any tips about small weddings ?

we don’t really want a small one at home(Uk!)

Just my two cents but most guests don't want to attend a foreign wedding unless they particularly want to visit the country, and both time and money aren't really a problem. Because why would someone want to dedicate precious and often few days of annual leave and ££££ to go to another country to celebrate someone else's wedding? Unless it's your close relative or your absolute best friend who is family, it's a crazy concept to me! How often are there posts about feeling "obliged" to attend a destination wedding but not really wanting to and feeling resentful about it?

So if you speak openly and honestly about your plans you may find plenty of the friend group don't want to/can't attend anyway, or would love a get-out excuse of small numbers. Have a bigger celebration party at home another time for more people.