Anyone else not good at anything?

[readysetcake]

Sounds a bit melodramatic I know. But I’m honestly not good at anything. I’m shit at sport and not creative.
Took my daughter to a skate board thing yesterday. She was getting frustrated but I couldn’t help her as I don’t skateboard. Super sporty friend I’m with can, so had to rely on her to help. Also can’t mountain bike or roller blade the other current family hobbies. A extended family member has just run a half marathon and another completed a crazy biking challenge recently. I can’t even jog 5km without my Achilles flaring. I can’t play an instrument or sing or draw. I could go on and on. I’m literally devoid of any talent. Feel very inadequate and like a waste of atmosphere at the moment.

But if it's something you're passionate about you will persevere, and even if you never become good, so what?

Didn't Picasso say on his death bed 'I'm still learning' ?

And if you aren't passionate about it you wouldn't be doing it.

You know the only thing I want to be good at is being a good mum, friend, and person.

I'm good at what brings me income. Maybe I just don't get the issue?

I'm rubbish at anything sporty (despite my DH and children being sporty) and I'm not very creative, but so what? I'm a great cook, I'm very good at organising things and bringing other people together, a good mum, a thoughtful friend, a reliable colleague. There's more to life than being sporty! I admit I felt a little inadequate when I met DH. He was in to extreme sports and adventures. But he loves me for who I am. Him and the kids can do their sporty activities together. There are plenty of other things we can all enjoy together.

I think you might want to look at Transactional analysis and The ‘Be Perfect’ statement.

There isn’t one thing, nit even doing a PhD that leaves you saying ‘I’ve done quite well here’. It seems that everything has to be perfect or be the best at.

If a friend was telling you what you are telling us in this thread, what would you tell her? Would you say she is worthless and not good at anything like you are telling yourself? Or would you point out that not everything should be done with the idea if being the best or even good at? That you are not what you do but who you are. This is what people will remember about you. Your kindness, the way you try and help, always. Your laughs, how you hold your dcs tight when they needed comfort. They won’t remember ‘@readysetcake just sucked at yoga’ or she couldn’t run.

It seems to have a huge impact on your life, from when you were a child and has stopped you from doing many things. Maybe you’d benefit from some counselling around that subject.

you can always try new things and the more you do it the better you get?

if you cant swim or drive you can learn its not to late.

I think most people are average and progress more vertically than horizontally. Otherwise planet would be full of Elon Musks, Steve Jobs, Lewis Hamiltons and Christiano Ronaldos and it's not.
I am approaching the mindset, when I am learning to accept it that I will never be excellent in one field (as my husband is and it was making me feel rubbish- not his fault though, he always values me and treats with respect), so I am trying to be happy with my average hobbies that won't bring me millions or you won't hear about me in BBC News that I got Nobel prize. I like Pilates, so I do it, but I accept I won't have my own studio or youtube channel with 3 million subscribers. I cook quite well, but I won't be Jamie Oliver etc. etc. Sometimes I feel that I didn't say my last word yet and I am still not where I'm supposed to be (career wise), but I don't know when and if this will happen for me.

Sorry. I meant: and progress more horizontally than vertically.