Only read the first page so far, but surely this is the crux of the matter?
Autism, unless the child is stereotypically presenting, is largely seen (by schools, by families and friends of the child, by CAMHS, by LA child behaviour “experts” and most other people you come into contact with) as a naughty child choosing to behave badly, with ineffective parents who are obstructing the child from reaching their potential.
We’re told that a child does not need a diagnosis in order to be supported, but unless you happen upon a holy grail of a school, you absolutely do, and even with a diagnosis, if the school/teacher/family member/camhs therapist decide they know better, you’re also screwed.
Autism is seen as an excuse for poor behaviour, for not trying hard enough (everyone else feels like that, but they’ve overcome it with determination etc). This is a societal issue which spreads into every aspect of life. No amount of autism awareness is changing this, unless a child (or adult for that matter) is presenting in a way that people recognise, they are likely to go unsupported.
This decision to only diagnose those who reach an even more strictly gatekeepered criteria just confirms this. They would never do this with something else, it wouldn’t be accepted with anything else, even though the effects of not being supported are far reaching, leading to high rates of suicide, low life expectancy, low employment numbers.
I don’t know what the answer is, increased training doesn’t seem to make a difference.
The happiest, most well adjusted autistic youngsters I know are the ones whose mothers home educate, which often puts them (the mothers I mean) at a disadvantage in the process. Not everyone is able to do this.
The education system as a whole is so fucked up right now. I’m certain that the pressure via schools is partly responsible for the increasing numbers of those needing a diagnosis. It was better 30+ years ago than it is now. Some progress we’re making 🙄