I've been unfortunate enough over the last few years to have worked in teams with some really horrendous people. Not everyone in each group, but one or two in each workplace typically. Mean bullies, gossiping, cruel comments, excluded, made to feel stupid, when I'm anything but. Thankfully I'm happy to say that I love where I've worked for the last five years and I don't have a problem with anyone and no one has raised anything with me! I'm also married and have two children and have a few decent friends, so I can't be all bad :-/
The thing is, the last of these bad experiences ended 5 and a half years ago, and the worst experience went on for six months and that ended 7 years ago.
The thing is, sometimes things that people have said, feelings that I felt from 5-10 years ago come back into my head. Like last night, I couldn't sleep for a couple of hours thinking things over and over (despite telling myself they were all horrid people and I honestly don't care about their opinions).
Do you ever ruminate over such things? The frequency that I think about all this has decreased, but it's still all there and I wonder will I ever be able to let it go? Any advice for how I can move forwards? Many thanks