Went for a coffee with a male friend after an activity we both do early on a Sunday morning, as we quite often do. I’ve been through a difficult time (separation) and a couple of months ago he saw me upset at the activity and asked if I wanted to join him for a coffee and chat after. He’s been really helpful as a good person to talk to and has some relevant experience which has helped me with my situation.
as I’ve got to know him I’ve realised he has lots of issues and so we’ve talked about those to and generally share a bit and listen to each other. We maybe have coffee every 2-3 wks and minimal to no contact in between.
he’s married and one time he asked if I wanted a coffee that day and I said yes then he said his wife was going to meet him too so would join us, it was a bit weird when she arrived but she was quite friendly and I thought it was all ok. That was about 6 wks ago maybe.
Today we went and I didn’t realise she was meeting him too. When she arrived I’d nearly finished me coffee anyway and was going to leave them to it but she was really really frosty with me. She asked if he’d like a coffee but didn’t offer me one (I would have declined anyway), then when she came back with hers I said how are you, she said fine, but didn’t ask me how I was. Sounds silly now writing it down but it was so frosty and I felt very unwelcome and embarrassed. I’d cleared my bag off the seat next to me but she sat on the other side next to him even though it wasn’t th obvious place if you see what I mean.
I made my excuses and left straightaway but am finding myself feeling really embarrassed. I was going to go and leave them to it anyway, she didn’t have to make it so clear I wasn’t welcome. To be clear I have no designs on him at all, and I am not attractive.
now I’m single is this what it will be like? Will people think I’m after their husbands?
have I done something wrong? Obviously I think it’s best we don’t have coffee again but just feel horrible about it and kind of embarrassed and a bit humiliated.