Would this worry you or am I being judgmental?

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DD17 has a new boyfriend, he’s a year older and is leaving Foster care and moving into a flat.
without outing myself Dd would be classed as vulnerable and alarm bells are ringing, would this worry you as a parent or am I jumping to conclusions and being judgemental?

I’d be more inclined to try and help him; make him feel comfortable within your family and welcome in your home. If your DD is vulnerable then it’s natural to feel protective about whoever she is with but always better to draw people in than make them feel judged and excluded

Poor kid. Way to make him feel welcome...
We ALL worry about who our children are dating/seeing/hanging out with don't we?
As a parent it's your job to equip your child with all the necessary information they need to make informed and safe decisions in their personal relationships.
If this young man didn't have a flat of his own would you be so worried? I'd be more concerned about them both being vulnerable, hanging out in parks etc.
Meet him, don't let your DD feel like you are judging or you just might push her away.

I think most people would have some worries in this situation and those who are saying they wouldn't are either lying or naive.

I am not saying that the boy is guaranteed to be trouble but I am saying that if my DD told me she'd met someone in the same situation, I of course would have some worries.

My main worry would be that he may not have grown up around healthy relationships and so not be able to have a healthy relationship with my DD.

My other worry would be that he would seek to create his only family unit as soon as possible and encourage my DD to have a baby.

I would keep these (my prejudices) to myself and get to know the boy but until I knew him well, of course I would be a little bit worried.

Children are put into foster care for a variety of reasons, a lot of which are out with their control. He will not have a bank full of money so will hardly be able to get a flat in a very nice location.
Invite him over for dinner, get to know him. Ask your dd to hang around your house with him until you get to know him more.
Sorry to say that she’s 17, she will be going out and seeing boys and spending time at their homes. If she has communication problems then I’d be supporting her with this relationship as it can really boost her confidence. Just keep reminding her that you are there for her and she can always go to you about anything.

Two vulnerable people getting together at a vulnerable age and during a period of instability in one of their lives does seem to be a recipe for disaster. They'll need strong and steady guidance and that'll have to come from you OP.