Moved to an area I don’t like - how can I change my mindset?

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We’ve moved to a (very nice) area that I just don’t love. It doesn’t feel like “home”. It’s where DH’s from and it feels very much like his family’s home and not mine. I was never certain about moving here, but can see that it’s a really nice place for kids and DH’s family were desperate for us to move here. I couldn’t think of a reason why we shouldn’t.

We have primary aged children and have uprooted their lives for this, so I have to just get used to it! I don’t want to uproot their lives again, and we don’t want to go back to our old place anyway - I feel like I’d said goodbye to it.

How do I change my mindset and feel ok with a place I don’t want to live?

Be realistic. It’s very unlikely you’re going to be there forever, most people move every 10/20 years anyway. This is just a stage, just a part of your life, enjoy the nice, quiet family environment because in the future you can move again to something totally different if you want to. Try to embrace it maybe. Nothing is forever.

You just accept that it will come with time. Of course it doesn't feel like your home at the moment, it isn't! You've just moved there. It will be your home in time.

Make an effort to put down roots, find friends, activities, local amenities that you like and can become 'the place you go'.

It's just time though.

Thank you both! I am trying to tell myself it’s a stage - the little kid stage! And that we can move after.

I’d definitely like to throw myself into making friends. So far, I haven’t found my “people”, but they must be out there!

I think that friends are key. And not just your husband’s old schoolfriends and their spouses (although they’re important too). You need your own crew. Any chance of meeting people through work? The PTA?

I hate moving for that reason, takes me ages for it to feel like home.
As a PP said, you just need to make some friends.