What would you choose?

[Spencer2]

This time last year we moved into our first home. We loved it at first and spent a lot of time and all our money on doing it up!

Prior to that we lived with my parents along with our DS.

Not long after moving, I became very down. Looking back I think it was because I had moved to a complete different area (note I do not drive) and had been made redundant that same month so I was suddenly a SAHM, stuck in an area I knew nothing about (no town within walking distance) not particularly close to any friends or family so felt very isolated.

We were only there for 6 months and an opportunity came up to move back to our home town. We took the opportunity, rented out the house and we are now back in an area we love… but… we are now in a teeny tiny flat and we have another child.

I’m now in the swing of things in terms of being a SAHM, I am keen to get my license and (never thought i’d say this) I’m starting to wonder.. did we make the right decision moving from the house?

I’d like to get peoples opinions re space vs location? I really dislike the location of the house (schools aren’t great there either). I feel there are more opportunities where we are now and of course friends and family are all local.

Even though i’m making it sound like a no brainer, the house is beautiful, big (with lovely garden) and I feel guilty for the two kids being stuck in a tiny flat!

Just can’t decide what to do for the best.

Location always priority

within reason though

how “teeny” are we talking?

Within a year you’ve moved out of a property, bought a property, rented out that property, moved in to another property. All with young children

a) bloody expensive and
b) bloody stressful

just give it some time

So the house is a semi detached 3 bed with downstairs wc, utility, driveway and lovely garden.

The flat has 1 double bedroom, 1 single bedroom, teeny tiny kitchen and decent size living area (so basically the living area is the only space they have). House also has a play area (extension off of living room).

If I drove I would be 25 mins door to door from the house to my mums house. It takes roughly 1hr 15m - 1hr 30m on public transport.

Get your license

then make your decision

@Lovelyveg80 yes! So stressful. We have packed and unpacked twice too many times within a year!

I’m thinking perhaps to get my license whilst living at the flat and then re visit the idea from there….

Presumably where you currently live is much more expensive than place you moved to terms of rent?

No brainer

@Lovelyveg80 sadly it is more expensive. We would have loved to have brought a house of a similar size in this area but honestly.. we’d have to win the euros!

I did a similar move last year from a 4 bed detached to a flat like you describe. We've since found and moved into a 2 bed semi with double bedrooms and a kitchen/diner. I think there's a minimum level of space I can put up with and the flat was just too small and depressing. We are renting now, and selling the house but I think when we buy, we'll go for the bigger house a few miles out of the ideal area rather than smaller place in ideal location next time.

I just think you need to stay out for time being and focus on license as a top priority

@Spencer2 what could you buy where you are now?

what does your partner think?

At least you still own the house & are only renting now, so you can move back fairly easily IF you want to.

But yes, it does make sense to get your licence then decide.

your little ones don't know any different for now, home is just home x