Teacher rewarding the children with sweets every day

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For the past few weeks my dd has been given sweets from the teacher for good behavior. This wasn't discussed with parents beforehand and personally it's not something I'm happy with. We try to limit sugary treats and only have them at mealtimes when we do.

Should i discuss this with the teacher or leave it so my dd isn't left out?

What would you do?

I’d leave it probably but be conflicted about it. For me, any kind of food shouldn’t be used as a reward or punishment and should just be freely available. So this situation kind of doesn’t work with the first of those principles.
But then I do have food issues and overthink!

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I’ve got this issue at school at the moment too. I’ve never limited any foodstuff and hate that they’re now creating the association with food as a reward. DS has never been bothered previously, but he’s now regularly having sweet treats at school (daily!)

I'm pretty relaxed about this sort of thing but everyday seems excessive.

Leave it. Those will be coming from the teacher’s own money bought on her
own time and it has a kind intention.

Ffs OP...how old are they?

It’s the same at my children’s school. I can’t stand it. Sweets and/or plastic shit like poppits or whatever they are called.

I would much prefer they didn’t get either of these things.

I think most teachers would prefer the little "darlings " to behave and not to spend their PERSONAL money on them 🤬🤬🤬

Oh and do you know what? It's actually not Ofsted that's the root of the problem in schools it's the kids. Yes the kids. And their parents. If the kids behaved because of proper parenting at home the teachers wouldn't be under so much pressure of polishing turds that can't be polished.

Jeez, bet you're fun at parties! 🤦🏻‍♀️

I get the point above that the teacher is resorting to sweets and the parents should discipline their children better so that they behave.

Owever, Teachers shouldn't give out sweets, especially for good behaviour. Who gives sugar to kids who can't behave? That's just asking for trouble.

I would speak to the head and ask what the DFE policy is on this. It was discouraged by DFE many years ago.

I wouldn't be happy. Sweets everyday are not good for teeth. Can't she reward them with games 30 mins before hometime as an incentive for good behaviour instead? Play Hangman or something? Doesn't cost anything so she wouldn't be out of pocket either

I would be really unhappy about this. Definitely take it up with the school. So misguided

How many sweets & how often?

Yep.....totally agree with this!

How many sweets?
My friend is a teacher and gives them ONE haribo for good behaviour. Not one packet, just one single sweet.

I don't care too much about this....

UNLESS they police who has cakes / flapjacks in their lunchboxes.

If they're strict about lunches then it's a bit silly and embarrassing to be so hypocritical 😂

I think you are being reasonable. What's the point having lessons about healthy diet etc when the teacher is undermining it like this?

I am surprised that my kid has been given sweets / chocolate at their new school. Personally I think this won’t happen in 10/15 years when society has to face the obesity crisis fully. Not that it’s making my child obese but for educators to reward with sugar is going to seem very wrong.

id have a gentle chat with the teacher about it and explain your perspective.

Xmas 2019 School sent a letter home urging advent calendars to be opened after school as apparently the one chocolate piece before school was causing behavioural problems and hyperactivity.

The letter caused absolute hell up.

As a teacher I am quite surprised. Most schools have stopped birthday treats for children to hand out at school never mind staff giving sweets out!
It isn't good practice. Reward the children by all means stickers, pencils etc.

Are they part of healthy schools quality mark? Check their behaviour policy and see if it is in there too as they should specify how they reward good behaviour!

As a dentist I would not be happy about this at all. I would be going in to speak with them.

I had a teacher in primary school who used to give you a pound coin and send you to spend it at tuck shop, every time we aced a test lol!
ive only found memories of her surprise!
she used to post Easter eggs to our houses and bring back gifts form holiday.
i think if that happens with my LO I would find it strange but I think she just really had a thing for spoiling kids!
the teacher we had the following year was all about healthy eating - that was our topic for the whole year lol
im glad LO wil be at a nursery that focuses on healthy eating because I am trying to raise her with a healthier food relationship than what I had. But i thought all schoools did that now?

Oh get a grip fgs, the teacher rewarded the children out of her own pocket. Much bigger things in the world to be upset over.