Name changed as may be slightly outing if there is anyone on here who knows me.
This is a bit of a petty and strange one but we have regular (about twice a year) visits from DP’s family for a few weeks at a time. Please feel free to skip this as I realise it is not a big thing in the grand scheme.
Due to the family members coming a long way from abroad and at quite a bit of expense, the visits are at least two weeks. I like them a lot and they are nice people but here’s the thing: as I get older, I am finding it much more difficult to have people in my space for that long. I like hosting but it is a lot.
It’s hard to verbalise but I just need some time alone, feel awkward slopping around in my nightwear/no make up etc… in front of them but want to be able to do this before going to work but they get up at 6am so are already up by the time I am. I s’pose I just need to get ready in my room at 6 before going downstairs.
MIL is nice 90% of time but I have been on the receiving end of some disdainful comments/ sulks and looks over the years so think it might be that putting me on edge a bit. It might seem very petty and pathetic but wondering if anyone feels similar at all? I can’t reduce the visit time but is there anything I can do to help me feel better? I know we are lucky to have family who care about us so I feel a bit ungrateful.
They are quite intense and don’t go out at all during their visits unless we go with them. They also kind of follow us (me and DC) to the door and wave from the front step every morning when we leave to go to school/work which seems lovely but really gets to me after two weeks!! when we get home, they kind of leap to open the door to welcome us in so I feel we don’t have a minute to decompress! I do go upstairs to my room for about half an hour some days just so I can have space between work and home. I also try to go somewhere by myself once per week when they are here which helps.
Sorry for rambling but it does feel better to get it out! ðŸ¤ðŸ™ˆ