Would you speak to mum?

[PFBToSecondary]

Non UK school. Secondary starts at 12/13 not 11 and is streamed.

DS has ASD, acts far younger than his age. Tend to flap and get over excited by random things which his classmates Largely ignored by the rest of the class. Boys no longer bully him but don't have anything to do with him, girls are friendlier.

They have to submit a list of 3 names who they would like to be in a class with. He, not having any friends, doesn't know who else will be on the bottom stream. His only thoughts are there is one boy he definitely doesn't want to be with. One girl has said to him "we might be in the same class!" She's the only one I know who is also going into the lower stream.

I don't know if I should call her mum and ask if he can put her down on his list. Then at least be has someone he knows. But it might put this girl in an awkward position- starting secondary and maybe feeling like she has to look out for him a bit. I know secondary is brutal and well, he has ASD. They try to give you at least one on your list, so if he does then I assume they will be put on the same class.

so, would you speak to the mum?* *Or leave his list blank?

Just add her name. You don't need permission and she won't know it wasn't random.

Don’t speak to the mum. Do add her name. It’s his list of who he wants the school can worry about matching up.

No need to speak to parents, but try snd help him choose the 3 names of friendly children even if they are not friends as such. A familiar face in your class is reassuring at the start of secondary school.

@PreparationPreparationPrep I don't know who else is going to the lower stream though. The 5 I do know (2 boys and 3 girls) are all going top stream.

I'm thinking if you don't know you can take the chance and add the names anyway. Nothing to lose.

Or if you are worried for him you can ask his current teacher/head if they can speak to SENCO on your behalf. They may not be able to but worth a try

I would but what names you do know down and no I would not speak to the other parents