My sister is 32. She was in a relationship for several years with a narcissistic, very wealthy guy who messed with her confidence and left her for a 20 something year old he'd been having an affair with over covid lockdowns.
In the span of a few years she lost her business, fiancé, dog and has been visibly depressed since.
She hasn't been on a single date or gone on any dating apps but is continuously telling me she's depressed to think she may never have children (thought she would have one with ex but he would tell her he wasn't ready and he would let her know when he was - we now know why) even to the extent she's said she would rather die if she can't be a mother.
She's not in a financial position to freeze her eggs. She tells me the idea of dating apps repulse her and all the men on there are out for one thing.
She works from home and barely leaves anymore.
I feel as though her ex has dragged her along for a ride and crushed her self esteem and lead her down the garden path, not really wanting her but not wanting others to have her until he was ready to dispose of her.
I would like some suggestions on how I can help my sister because I love her and hate to see her so broken.
Obviously if she was 25 the concern about meeting someone and becoming a mum would be less of a worry but given that she'll be 33 this year time is ticking a bit so when she says this to me I don't know what to say because I'm not going to lie and pretend that's not true. She's even got a load of neutral baby clothes she's bought through the years and kept in a box. Our mum suggested considering a donor if she's not met anyone by 35 and that just made her breakdown in tears so she's still very sensitive about it all. thanks x