Mothers Day

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So my 8 year old brought up a gift and said here you go although you don't deserve it. I'm heartbroken. Whilst we were shopping he called me ugly. I'm just so low. I suppose his only copying his Dad as his Dad speaks to me like it and said I only said good morning as its mother's day. Right now I'm sat in the bath crying my eyes out and feeling so lonely. I feel like going for a walk with the dog and not returning to the home. I just need a way out.

your 8 year old doesn't get to speak to you like that, what consequences have you put in place? You need to get rid of your partner

Next year, a whole different experience

xx

Are you in a relationship with his dad? Sorry, it’s a bit unclear from your post. I’m hoping not but if you are I think you need to take immediate steps to end that.
Your ds should not be saying things like that to you, I guarantee you deserve the present and that you are not ugly.
Things can get better but you need to turn things around before you’re ground any further down. 💐

Explain that daddy shouldn't talk to mummy like that and it's not his fault for copying but... Now he's been explained it must not happen again

Oh OP 💔 I'm so sorry. Happy Mother's Day 💐💝 You DO deserve it!

Your 8yr old needs severely reprimanding for saying such vile words along with a very stern chat about respect. Seriously. You don't want him treating his future partners like his Dad treats you.

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Does he have any other male role models, like your father or an Uncle, who can give him some advice?

His Dad twists his head he said to give me the present but prior said I'm only being nice because it's mother's day.
His currently telling him off but it's conflicting for him and because ive pointed this out his calling me a bitch and says he had to kill his dog because of us.
I know I need to keep strong and somehow turn things around. I don't have any family support. My son is now self harming and his calling him disgusting calling him saying his horrible.

Do you live with his dad?
Does he hear these kind of comment from his dad aimed at you?

I'm sorry, your 8 year old son is self harming, am I reading right? You need to get yourself and him out of this abusive relationship as soon as possible, not try and "turn things around", it's actively harming your son.

Crikey this sounds like a mess. Can you contact National DA helpline for advice ?

You need to take action to escape for for you and your son.

www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk

You need to leave and get your child away from this abusive man.

My son is now self harming and his calling him disgusting calling him saying his horrible.

Now as in lately or as in right now?

Fuck's sake, why do people put up with this shit?

Get rid of that POS I feel sorry for your son you are the adult make plans and leave

This is really sad to read. What is your relationship with your ds like normally?
Do you spend one to one time with him? Lots of hugs and kisses?
It sounds like the attachment he feels isn't secure. You can spend time reconnecting with him.

I’m sorry you are failing your son the poor child is self harming and you are letting the so called father call him names let’s hope this child doesn’t take this one step further

grow a pair and leave

You need to get out of there that's an extremely unhealthy household

You and your son are being abused. Your son can’t make it stop. You are the only person who can do that.

You need to put your son first. He is being damaged by his father, he will grow up damaged, have kids and then he will reflect that behaviour he has learned and pass it on down the line

Get out of the relationship now. Your child is being abused, as are you. Stop this happening 💜