Sad about Mothers Day

[Asiama]

I have had a wonderful start to Mother's Day with DH and children. But I feel so sad, because I am NC with my own mother out of my own choice, because in short, she is an awful person. I know today she will be really sad too as I am an only child so no other children to be with her today. There's no way I can break NC with her because being in contact with her is even more dreadful. Are there others in this situation, and how do you cope?

I know exactly what you mean. I broke contact about 5 years ago and there is no going back as she was always awful. I don't miss her but all the posts on Facebook today make me feel sad when they say how wonderful their mother's are.

I’m very limited contact with my Mum as she is awful and yes, today is always a hard day. I hate seeing social media posts full of people gushing about how wonderful their Mum is. They don’t know how lucky they are.

I didn’t get her a card (always too difficult to find one that doesn’t say how amazing she is) but I sent her a generic text this morning. No reply.

Hi OP, I'm in a similar situation and it is hard. Three of my mothers children don't have any contact with her at all, yet she will play the victim. She has sent me a card (no doubt just ignoring all of the reasons we don't talk to her) and it will just ruin my day if I open it, so I won't. I just try to enjoy my own fabulous children and thank my lucky stars I'm not the mother to them that she was to me. But yes, it is difficult when you see everyone praising their mothers and enjoying nice family days. It is what it is, we can't all get lucky. I just got two shit parents. I can't change it. I just resolve not to be like them.

In terms of how I cope, I try and steer clear of the likes of FB and Instagram and enjoy the day with my own DC.

I had to stop having anything to do with my mother years ago. She has been dead for 18 years but for some reason even the thought of her is upsetting.
A mother is love. That is what I am. She was selfish and evil and her actions still affect me badly. You only get one mum don't you? When I was growing up I wished my friends mums were my mum.
I think of my grandmother as a mother figure these days. I adored her and try to be like her, so remembering on Mother's day is a memory of her.

I'm feeling the same. Only last month everything kicked off (again) and I've been NC with my mother since.
I know this is for the best but I'm feeling really sad and alone.
I can't talk to my dad as he takes her side and does anything to placate her, I don't blame him.
I have NC with my brother, she disowned him years ago.
I'm (stupidly) worried she'll be upset today.

Sending everyone hugs 🫂