Widowed male friend.

[Shortperson]

Hi there

I feel a bit embarrassed asking for advice at the grand old age of 62!

I’ve been single for years (divorced in the early 90s) but I have dated a few other divorcees but never a widower. I’ve recently met a very nice man through a mutual hobby and we’ve met up twice for walks and lunch. He lost his wife only two months ago, he has two grown up children and a large family whom he sees regularly. He’s been nice to me, a total gentleman and I like him.

He made it clear from the start that he’s only looking for some company. He’s going on a sabbatical/walking holiday for three months later in the year as well as planned holidays with friends and family.

I just feel that it’s too soon for this man to date anyone but I’ve never been widowed so how would I know he feels? I would like to find someone to have a relationship with, having been single for many years.

I’d like to see this man again as I do like him and maybe things might change later on but he has made it crystal clear that he only wants my company…whatever that means.

He seems to like me too but it’s an extremely painful time for his family, I’m letting him set the pace and giving space.

Anyone been through this?

Did he lose his wife to a suddenly or was it a long illness? Sometimes you do a lot of your grieving together whilst your partner is ill and have time to come to terms with losing your partner. Although 2 months is pretty quick and I can imagine his family would be a bit shocked if he started dating but he has said to you it's not dating and just company.

If you like him just roll with it, something may come of it in the long term or not but he seems like a guy you enjoy being friends with so you wouldn't be losing out either way.