Organising your own 'mothers day'

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Please organise your own little events if you have a crap partner and Mother's Day is important to you.
Every year I feel sad for all those mums who feel hurt and forgotten on the day. Mumsnet is full of those posts on Mother's Day.
Depending on their age and what you like,
It's easy to do things like get dcs to make a card, to bring you a croissant for breakfast, to help bake a cake, go for a walk, help them to buy a bunch of daffodils, get lots of cuddles and 'I love you's.
Its good for dcs to learn that you matter and to help them learn how to acknowledge others on an occasion that matters to them, regardless of the partner.
Hope everyone has a good day.

Yes!! Don't wait for your husband or partner to do it for you particularly if he says things like 'why would I buy you anything for Mother's Day, you're not my mum' - believe him that he won't be doing anything for you and arrange a lovely day for yourself so you won't be disappointed. (Also do not do anything for Father's Day if this is your husband)

I have always taught my children the exact opposite, I don't want gifts and flowers and spoiling on mothers day when it means nothing. I want it throughout the year, as and when THEY choose to show affection and support, not because of a day on the calendar, which Hallmark have taken over the meaning of

I'm not into all the commercial stuff but it's nice for dc to feel a part of it.
I make it mostly about my mum and dcs are teenagers so buy me a little something and make me cups of tea and cake.

Mother’s Day expectations!
i have asked my husband what we should do on Mother’s Day, given we both have mums and I’m a mum too! He said he is taking his mum out for the day. I thought we could spend the day together, all of us… and feel hurt that he hasn’t considered me in that. He has said I’m acting narcissistic and only thinking about myself! Suggesting I should tell our children what to do if I want them to take me out (2 are adults and 1 teen). Am I being unreasonable to be upset that he wants to take his mum out alone? And I’m left to sort my own Mother’s Day out?

I was always able to do both….

@TheSillyRaven I'd plan something lovely with your own DC - you'll have a lovely time and less stress I imagine!

To me mothers day is just another day and doesn't really mean anything so I don't understand why people get so worked up.

I always get shocked at the moaning threads on here every year from people who should know their partner and adjust their expectations accordingly, this thread is right - if you want something doing then do it yourself.
I definitely wouldn't be pulling out all the stops for fathers day/birthdays etc if my partner didn't bother with me on my special days.

I always plan my own Mother’s Day and birthday and haven’t had a bad one yet. This is not because my DH is rubbish it’s just how I like to do things, he plans his own birthday too.