Invite colleagues round?

Whosaidthattt · 2023-03-14T20:14:24+00:00

I work 40 miles from home. In June, 6 of us will be at a conference in my home town for a week. They will stay in a hotel, I will come home. They have started joking about coming to mine one evening for a BBQ and beers. I have no interest in having 5 colleagues in my home for an evening. I have 2 teens and my house is always a tip. We get on well enough, but I wouldn't choose them as friends. Am I being bah humbug? Should I just suck it up for an evening and invite them all round?

LlynTegid · 14/03/2023 20:16

Just say no.

(House being redecorated or some other excuse if you must). A barbecue, recipe for disaster. Teens, just takes one of them to think one of your colleagues is looking inappropriately, imagine the allegations or consequences.

SwedishEdith · 14/03/2023 20:22

No way. Maybe meet up in a pub near you one evening - if you want to. But, no, locals never really meet up with those staying over unless drinks/food straight after work.

motherofkevinnotperry · 14/03/2023 20:23

Pub meal out it is.

redrobininmygarden · 14/03/2023 20:24

why don't you book a evening meal locally? Usually people have allowance for meals when they eat out while on business trip

daimtheman · 14/03/2023 20:24

LlynTegid · 14/03/2023 20:16

Just say no.

(House being redecorated or some other excuse if you must). A barbecue, recipe for disaster. Teens, just takes one of them to think one of your colleagues is looking inappropriately, imagine the allegations or consequences.

What a weird thing to jump to!

Mumof1andacat · 14/03/2023 20:27

No. That's too much. Take them them toy your favourite pub/restaurant in the town.

Fandabgr · 14/03/2023 20:28

No way, you definitely have no obligation and shouldn't at all if you don't want too. That's a lot of effort for work colleagues who you don't even like. Meet for a drink at a pub if you wish or just bow out. Excuse if you need, say a friend is staying etc. You have plans.

SunshineAndFizz · 14/03/2023 20:29

I wouldn't. Colleagues in my home, no thanks.

Having kids gives you the perfect excuse, if they bring it up again...

"if I didn't have teens lurking about I might have been able to" ...or

..."oh I wouldn't subject you to an evening with my grumpy teens"...or

..."shame I'll not be able to meet you, I'm taking teen to <make up any hobby> that night".

loobylou10 · 14/03/2023 20:42

*'LlynTegid
Just say no.

(House being redecorated or some other excuse if you must). A barbecue, recipe for disaster. Teens, just takes one of them to think one of your colleagues is looking inappropriately, imagine the allegations or consequences.'*

What a weird thing to say!

FlightyFoxing · 14/03/2023 21:02

Fuck no.

MissEira · 14/03/2023 22:23

Of course you should invite them!

Itcouldhappenabishop · 14/03/2023 22:33

I don't know, I'd love to host my team but they are ace 👍. You can just not respond, they'll get the message. Or you could tidy up, tell your teens to behave like civilised humans, and get the beers in.

Summer2424 · 14/03/2023 22:43

Hi @Whosaidthattt no i wouldn't invite them. A whole load of colleagues keep on wanting to come over to my house to see my newborn but i just rather they didn't 😁

HelpMeGetThrough · 14/03/2023 22:44

Not a chance.

Just tell them what I told a colleague who tried to invite themselves around. "Friends and family only at my place and you are neither".

Problem solved.

Undertheoldlindentree · 14/03/2023 22:59

Just mutter vaguely that it's a bit difficult that week, but suggest you meet them instead at a local pub or restaurant you know is a good one.

Northernsouloldies · 15/03/2023 04:37

Just a straight, nope don't do visitors n laugh n change subject.

Riapia · 15/03/2023 07:27

Surely it would be better for the 5 of them to pay for you to eat at their hotel than to expect you to feed them all.
Suggest that if they mention it again.

SpringIntoChaos · 15/03/2023 07:53

Northernsouloldies · 15/03/2023 04:37

Just a straight, nope don't do visitors n laugh n change subject.

I would literally say this.

Wishimaywishimight · 15/03/2023 14:01

If they're joking just ignore them. If someone asks directly then they've got some nerve and should be ok with you responding "God no, I hate hosting, far too much work" and laugh it off.

America12 · 15/03/2023 15:35

LlynTegid · 14/03/2023 20:16

Just say no.

(House being redecorated or some other excuse if you must). A barbecue, recipe for disaster. Teens, just takes one of them to think one of your colleagues is looking inappropriately, imagine the allegations or consequences.

What a strange line of thought

Hbh17 · 15/03/2023 15:39

Absolutely not.

Brefugee · 15/03/2023 15:40

Gosh no. Just go out for a meal? one drink in a pub?

Corcomroe · 15/03/2023 15:42

I’ve always made lasting friendships through work, but if these are not people you’d choose to have in your life, then absolutely not. No need to come up with elaborate excuses, just ignore. If they start asking directly, then just saying something firm but light-hearted as a pp suggested eg ‘Hod, no — hosting is way too much work!’

MaggieFS · 15/03/2023 16:20

No way, unless you want to. I get on well with my colleagues, but my home is my escape. I prefer to have boundaries.

Just laugh it off and if the push, just say 'you can't be serious, I have two teenagers at home'. And leave it at that.

Chikapu · 15/03/2023 16:42

LlynTegid · 14/03/2023 20:16

Just say no.

(House being redecorated or some other excuse if you must). A barbecue, recipe for disaster. Teens, just takes one of them to think one of your colleagues is looking inappropriately, imagine the allegations or consequences.

just takes one of them to think one of your colleagues is looking inappropriately, imagine the allegations or consequences

So having colleagues round eating burgers and having a drink leads to teens making allegations of inappropriate behaviour? What a weird little mind you have.