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What's your purpose in life?

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Consideringit · 14/03/2023 18:56

I'm having a bad time at work at the min and for the first time in my life, I'm beginning to think beyond my immediate job.

I don't know what I want to achieve in my life to consider it 'worthwhile' or 'good'

What do you want to achieve in your life? What motivates you to get out of bed every day and face the world?

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Southstand · 14/03/2023 20:28

I've been thinking about this. My work involves helping to spread knowledge to enable research and the common good so I'm trying to feel useful being part of that.

More personally, I have aging warring parents who do not get on and are abusive to each other and everyone else. I was a honeymoon baby and like to hope that I am a positive outcome of that early phase of the marriage before things went wrong. I just try to be a good thing in this world and a good Mum, friend and spouse.

Would dearly love a functioning family of origin...

MaryJean87 · 14/03/2023 20:31

I've got 4 kids so I need to get up and do things for them.

Cupofteaaa5 · 14/03/2023 20:31

I used to worry a lot about my life purpose when I was in my early 20s. It bothered me so much that I didn't have one huge monumental goal for my life.

But now I've accepted that I don't really think I have one. My purpose is just to live really. To enjoy being alive as much as I can, to connect with others and have loving relationships. Do things which make me happy.
I work with children with special needs, so that feels rewarding, but I wouldn't say it's my life's purpose.
If my family and loved ones are happy and well, and I have the little things which make me happy, then I'm all good.

Keepithidden · 14/03/2023 20:37

Good question, and honestly my purpose is to raise the DCs as best I can in the partnership I've found myself in. After that it is to remain economically viable long enough so DW can enjoy her life.

Anonaymoose · 14/03/2023 20:38

I help sick animals for a living. I love being around animals and advocate for them relentlessly. Been doing this for 30 years so I guess that's my purpose! It's not my only purpose of course but it's a huge part of me.

FuriousFurious · 14/03/2023 20:48

We exist as part of this world. We leave ripples everywhere we go and may never have a purpose, but definitely an impact.
My children, my connection to the world and learning brings me happiness.

Abracadabra12345 · 14/03/2023 20:50

SallyWD · 14/03/2023 19:31

I've never had a great career but that's never been my purpose in life. For me I always wanted to have a family, a happy relationship and just try and be helpful to my wider family and friends. I think helping others gives a real sense of purpose, particularly if you're feeling low yourself. I try and create lots of nice experiences with people. For example, my parents are old and frail now and can't do much. I like to treat them, take them out for lunch etc because I know it gives them a real boost. I think if I can bring a little happiness or help to others then my life is worthwhile.
I'm someone who's very easily pleased so generally feel content.

I think this is key. I remember in the film Last Christmas when she says, "Helping makes you happy!"

PandasAreUseless · 14/03/2023 20:50

Like Ricky Gervais says, we're all just tourists on Earth for a brief time, and our only purpose is to enjoy it, have fun and try not to harm others.
I don't have some grand purpose in life.
I love my husband and dog, LOVE where I live (both our house and the town/area its in - in a national park), and have nice family and friends. I enjoy the small things in life - a great cup of coffee, a sunny dog walk, a bag of chips on a harbour wall and so on. I try to always have my eyes open and really SEE my surroundings.
I do something for work that, on paper, is fairly soulless, but enjoy it because I genuinely believe working hard is good for people (and certainly for me). My dad thinks the same and still works a 3-day week in a tough job at 72.

JoonT · 14/03/2023 20:56

My purpose in life is to acquire knowledge. Also, to deepen my sense of wonder. There are so many wonderful, fascinating things to learn, but we get so feckin distracted by work and traffic and money and keeping up with the Joneses, etc that we waste our lives.

My grandparents were intelligent people, but were frustrated by their lack of education. Both were born in Essex in the 1920s and left school at 14. Like most working-class Brits of that generation, they worked hard, raised loads of kids, and had no time for books or learning. I remember how much it upset them. I am so lucky to have had the education I did, and I'm so lucky to have any book I want delivered to my door.

My purpose in life, now, is to learn as much as I can, read as many great books as I can, and live the rest of my life in a state of wonder. I don't plan to do anything with that knowledge. And I've grown out of the need to impress people. I want it for its own sake.

There is SO much I don't know. I know nothing about astronomy, for example. I'm also ignorant about genetics, DNA, geology, quantum mechanics, evolution, etc, etc. I want to study philosophy, art history, ancient philosophy. And I want to learn Russian and Latin. I've got Carl Sagan's Cosmos (both the book and the DVD), as well as books by Richard Dawkins, Brian Cox, David Attenborough, Carlo Rovelli, etc lined up. And I want to re-read Bill Bryson's history of science.

I've also compiled a list (using Harold Bloom as a guide) of the great works of literature. Though I have two literature degrees, there are SO many books I've never read. I've never read Bleak House or Middlemarch or Wuthering Heights or Catch 22 or Brave New World or Frankenstein or Wordsworth's Prelude or Woolf's To the Lighthouse. I've never read a word of George Eliot, Tolstoy, Coleridge, Hazlitt, Daniel Defoe, Proust, H. G. Wells, Goethe, Trollope, John Ruskin, Walter Pater, Milton, Chaucer, Wilfred Owen, Cervantes. The list really is endless.

unconventionalopinion · 14/03/2023 20:58

Other than working for the future of my own child, since having my own I've realised how precious the upcoming generation are and how we have a responsibility to them. So I work to fund a non-profitable venture that will improve the lives of children; having a positive impact on at least one, but ideally many, of their lives is what I want to achieve.

Moonshine5 · 14/03/2023 20:59

What a thought provoking interesting thread

MakeMineABombay · 14/03/2023 20:59

at the moment my career - I have a very hierachical career and I want to be the top. it gives me a lot of drive.

I read a great thread on twitter recently from that girl sorry forgotten her first name but surname Knox who was wrongly imprisoned for murder about finding meaning in prison. See if you can find it @Consideringit it's really inspiring.

LunaTheCat · 14/03/2023 20:59

In healthcare so my purpose is to give back… it’s hard but I feel privileged to do it.
I also want to grow old with my husband, to enjoy simple things ( cups tea, reading, sitting in garden and listening to birds), friendships are important.
My sister died in her early 40’s… she was brilliant, I want my life to pay honour to her.

Dymaxion · 14/03/2023 21:11

Do I really need to decide now ? I am only just getting warmed up at 50 Grin

Southstand · 14/03/2023 21:15

Dymaxion · 14/03/2023 21:11

Do I really need to decide now ? I am only just getting warmed up at 50 Grin

That's the spirit!

bakewellbride · 14/03/2023 21:16

My family.

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