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NHS Doctors

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VillaWilliams · 13/03/2023 01:18

I want to know why are some NHS doctors rude? (Two different experiences with two different doctors).

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POTC · 13/03/2023 01:21

Because they are people and some people are rude 🤔

Mysorehead · 13/03/2023 01:22

Take any profession and you will find arseholes in it, this isn't an NHS doctor thing.

youtwoandme · 13/03/2023 01:23

Wherever you go you will find rude people. It certainly can't be narrowed down to just "NHS Doctors"

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VillaWilliams · 13/03/2023 01:24

Does their profession not require them to control their rudeness and treat patients with respect?

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VillaWilliams · 13/03/2023 01:26

Agreed👏

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Mysorehead · 13/03/2023 01:27

Not everyone can be perfect all the time, espcially in professions that are overworked, under appreciated and have unrealistic expectations put on them.
If you have a problem talk to pals about it.

nocoolnamesleft · 13/03/2023 01:29

Probably varies according to degree of fatigue and burn out. I apologised for being rude to a colleague the other week (I was not rude to the patients) but I had been awake at work for the preceding 32 hours, and they had dumped work on me that would keep me at work for another 3 hours past my finishing time.

MarshaMelrose · 13/03/2023 01:32

VillaWilliams · 13/03/2023 01:24

Does their profession not require them to control their rudeness and treat patients with respect?

I do think that most do control what they'd like to say to some patients. I don't think being rude is some part of a doctors dna.orcanything. Some will be rude because they've been pushed to it, some will be rude as that's who they are, and the vast majority will be polite. Same as the whole of society really.
It isn't nice, though, if you catch the tail end of their displeasure brought on by somebody else.

sunnydayys · 13/03/2023 12:45

Were you rude, demanding or entitled with them first?
If you were then there is your answer.

Speaking as a dr i'm sick of being blamed for the failing of our NHS, the lack of appointments, lack of time etc but I can't control any of that.
Not saying that is what you have done but son many patients now start their consultations with criticisms that's it's hard not to be jaded.

The drs you refer to are probably over worked, under paid, burning out and that is how it manifests.
Not saying that makes it right by the way.

MarshaMelrose · 13/03/2023 13:42

The drs you refer to are probably over worked, under paid, burning out and that is how it manifests.

That might be but I do think doctors should be aware that when they're talking about a patient in a derogatory fashion behind a curtain, its not a soundproof barrier and the patient can hear. I like to think I'm a pretty polite person. But it's not great to hear yourself spoken about.

And I also don't appreciate being told by an A&E consultant that I had no right to dump my aged mother with dementia off in A&E and just leave her. Not when she'd actually been booked in by the gp and we'd taken her up to the ward, booked her in and were told to go home and leave her with them. Nor was I greatly impressed when he didn't apologise but tried to wave it away with the explanation that they'd lost all her notes. (She'd been in there 36 hours.) Nor when he discharged her insisting that she needed no medication when in turned out she did.

It's not always the patient in the wrong.

stbrandonsboat · 13/03/2023 13:54

It's because we're expected to be grateful for any attention we receive. My cats vet is similarly overworked and busy, but she always manages to be polite and treats me like I'm an intelligent person because I'm directly paying her for her services. The same goes for the private dentist, physiotherapist, psychiatrist, podiatrist and the optician.

The NHS is perceived to be a free service because no bills as such are involved so we can be treated poorly. Also, because some patients/relatives are arseholes, everyone is expected to be treated as though they're an arsehole too, even if they're perfectly polite and amenable.

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VillaWilliams · 13/03/2023 21:56

sunnydayys · 13/03/2023 12:45

Were you rude, demanding or entitled with them first?
If you were then there is your answer.

Speaking as a dr i'm sick of being blamed for the failing of our NHS, the lack of appointments, lack of time etc but I can't control any of that.
Not saying that is what you have done but son many patients now start their consultations with criticisms that's it's hard not to be jaded.

The drs you refer to are probably over worked, under paid, burning out and that is how it manifests.
Not saying that makes it right by the way.

No not rude at all, I repeated my illness a couple of times and the doctor abruptly shut me up by saying did I think he/she didn’t hear me.

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VillaWilliams · 13/03/2023 22:08

stbrandonsboat · 13/03/2023 13:54

It's because we're expected to be grateful for any attention we receive. My cats vet is similarly overworked and busy, but she always manages to be polite and treats me like I'm an intelligent person because I'm directly paying her for her services. The same goes for the private dentist, physiotherapist, psychiatrist, podiatrist and the optician.

The NHS is perceived to be a free service because no bills as such are involved so we can be treated poorly. Also, because some patients/relatives are arseholes, everyone is expected to be treated as though they're an arsehole too, even if they're perfectly polite and amenable.

I hate to say that but I am inclined to think that I get treated like that because I am non white.

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moonpixel · 13/03/2023 22:12

I saw an NHS doctor in A&E today and he was absolutely amazing.

reblev92 · 10/09/2023 01:56

Imagine a doctor telling you you're pathetic and need professional help for taking your son in for a rash and dry skin on his scalp, bearing in mind we never go to the doctor for anything but it was bothering me the amount of flaky skin sitting in his hair and psoriasis runs in the family so I assumed that was hoping for treatment or advice and be on my way instead I have severe anxiety about doctors now and I was made out to be a bad mother. Causing my son unnecessary anxiety he said. 😟 I can't believe the way I was treated

reblev92 · 10/09/2023 01:59

Before my doctor experience I found this with hospital staff. But never extreme thouwgh. Just rushy and can't be bothered really

Tracker1234 · 12/02/2024 20:41

Have recently (today) had some experience with NHS doctors. Both were abrupt and rude. I know they are busy but so am I…I agree with PP - there is a real sense of arrogance in the way they spoke to me and I think it’s honestly the fact no bills are presented. If you were spoken to like this in a shop or a restaurant it would be totally unacceptable.

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AhBiscuits · 20/04/2024 06:58

DD's cardiologist is so rude and unpleasant. She never talks to DD or makes any effort to engage with her at all, she just talks to us (stroppily). I could sort of understand it when DD was a baby but it's always been the same and she's 8 now. After DD's open heart surgery her cardiologist was doing rounds, she came in our room with a cluster of other doctors, looked at us as if seeing us for the first time and asked who DD's consultant is. I said 'it's you' and she smiled for the first time and looked embarrassed. The other doctors laughed. She's just got zero people skills.

Mairzydotes · 20/04/2024 08:59

Some of them seem to think they are God like because they work for the NHS . I've noticed a few of them are arrogant.

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