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I’m fine!!!

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Bikeybikeface · 12/03/2023 09:48

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Just a little letting off steam here.
last year I had a traumatic accident, broken bones, ribs, TBI, pneumothorax and brachial plexus injury which has resulted in me having little movement in my arm and none in my hand. Despite this, I am fine. I am moving on with life, happy to be here and I’ve adapted well.
Only thing is, people expect me not to be fine so I get asked all the time…how are you feeling, then, how are you really feeling. They give me the look too, the look of pity. I end up sounding like Ross of friends….”I’m fine, I’m really fine” but I am really fine.
I’ve come off all my tablets, including antidepressants which I’ve been on for years. I know I probably sound like I’m overstating my “fineness” but it’s just so frustrating having the “you ok hun?” Head tilt question.
I know people will say they are just looking out for me but even if I wasn’t fine, I’m not about to unload on Steve from the chippy or Angela whose daughter used to go to school with my daughter.
Maybe I’ll get a tshirt made up with “Really actually fine thank you”, on it. Or maybe I’ll should start unloading all my boring problems so they walk the other way next time they see me coming.

Anyway, I just needed to get that off my chest. I’m fine btw 😉

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MirabelMax · 12/03/2023 09:59

Are you really though <head tilt>

That must be infuriating. I wish I could come up with some snappy retort you could use but I’ve got nothing.

Buttalapasta · 12/03/2023 10:08

I'm glad you're fine. On the flip side, I had a serious accident and partially lost the use of an arm, permanently. Only one person said "that must really suck!" AND actually it made me feel better that someone recognised this.

CalistoNoSolo · 12/03/2023 10:09

I feel your pain. I had a friend that started doing this when I split with my husband, no matter how many times I told her I was much happier, coping well and didn't need any help she persisted in telling me I looked really tired and was I sure I was OK. There was some other subtle passive aggressive shit from her too and we're no longer friends.

I do think that some people want the person going through a tough time not to be OK so they feel better about themselves.

Bikeybikeface · 12/03/2023 10:23

@MirabelMax 😆 noooo! “I’m fine” in high squeaky voice!

@Buttalapasta I shall swap you my tens of insincere head tilts for your one “that must suck”. It does suck for sure, but…I’m still fine.

@CalistoNoSolo you get it, I do sometimes think they don’t want me to be ok so they want me to spill everything so they can go home and spread the goss. “Oh yeah, Bikeybikeface is reallly struggling bless her” is so much juicier than “Bikeybikeface is fine”.

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