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How do I get over not having another child??

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Misskg1982 · 11/03/2023 21:46

Just that really, how do I move forward.. how do i let go of the want for a second baby??
We have a DD who is 6 and a few years ago now my OH broke it to me that he didnt want a second child and so when one doesnt want another, another doesnt come along. But I've struggled!!!
We've spoken a few times and I respect his wishes, I mean as hard as it is we dont all want the same. I just thought by now I'd be able to deal with the realization better. Yet I still have good and bad days, bad days being where I feel so low and cry, alot. Pregnancy annoucements do me in. Im happy for those announcing but inside Im hurting. Will this ever go away??
I appreciate my DD I really do but I just don't feel done, will I ever ??

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kikisparks · 11/03/2023 21:55

Can you afford to get some therapy? Sounds like it could really help you.

HeavenIsAHalfpipe · 11/03/2023 21:57

Oh that's a shame. Did he say why? Did he always say he would only ever want one? A little more context needed.

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Misskg1982 · 11/03/2023 23:29

Before having our DD we never discussed a number to be fair. But soon after having her I knew I wanted another and let that be known. He didnt really say too much at the time other then we've only just had her. But he has found giving him up hard, he struggles with putting his needs aside and we do butt heads over this. When we did talk about another he mentioned finances as a reason but he also said he doesn't get enough of me as it is, a second would make thus worse. I work hard on giving myself as much as I poss can to both of them, but he doesnt always appreciate this but hey that's another issue.

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Wombats23 · 11/03/2023 23:32

It is the issue tho.

Sounds like you run yourself ragged to meet his needs.

wingingitandsoaring · 22/06/2023 21:48

I am in the same position, but I have decided to leave. Eondered if it was selfish but honestly if you're still feeling crap years down the line maybe its for the best...

b0zza1 · 22/06/2023 22:08

I have a 6 year old and separated from his father several years ago. I am currently going through IVF as a single mother by choice, because that's the family I want. You can Google to find out about other people making this choice.

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