I have my hair highlighted and cut every 3-4 months. I’m really happy with the way it is coloured. My hair was halfway down my back until the end of last year, when I had the layers cut out as I didn’t like how it was sitting and it always looked straggly. It was then all one length. I had a good 6 inches cut off and was gutted to lose the amount, but resigned myself to the fact it would grow back at some point and was at least now how I wanted it.
Over Christmas I visited my hairdresser and, without asking, she cut my layers back in. The way it was styled (I have a feathered front) I didn’t notice until I got home. I messaged her, asking what had happened and saying I was very upset about this. She basically fobbed me off and denied that she’d cut in layers, instead saying that she had to cut the top layers shorter, as they would have broken off otherwise. I take extremely good care of my hair and she has previously complimented me, jokingly asking for tips, about how few split ends I have. All she suggested was for me to wash my hair, as it would then look different (!?!) I felt that she had forgotten that I’d changed my haircut (although presumably she could see how she’d previously cut it) and had automatically cut in the layers again and was now lying and not taking responsibility. I had the layers cut out elsewhere and had to lose another 4 inches off my hair to have it all one length.
The time has now come round again for my booked in appointment with her. I really do like how she colours my hair, but I’m still annoyed and am not sure I trust her. I really struggle with people pleasing too and am desperately trying to put in boundaries and listen to my inner voice about being treated how I want to be. Would you just suck it up and go back, or would you go elsewhere, as she has behaved quite unfairly with me? (If I went back it would only be for a colour this time)