How bothered are you by privacy at windows etc

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I’ve noticed that there seem to be two types of people. People are really really overcautious about shutting windows and blinds whenever you are in a state of even slight undress in your house and some people who are more casual.

Where are you and your partner on this? Do you agree.

Because my husband and I do not agree and entertainingly drives me nuts. I’m like THERES NO ONE THERE. 😀

My mum even has a hidden washing line for her underwear. I’m like - mum. No one can see your washing line unless they’re up a tree

Curtains closed every time. But if I lived in the middle of nowhere/ surrounded by high trees etc then I wouldn't bother most likely. The fact is though, I can be seen.

It depends on the situation.

If I was famous and paps routinely followed me I would be more cautious than I am as a nobody.

It depends what state of undress. To just whip my top off and put another on I wouldn’t close curtains or blinds, but to get fully dressed I would. I’m not particularly overlooked though, I sometimes just stand in a blind spot and get changed.

I couldn't care less and my husband insists all curtains are closed

My DH and I disagree on this too, but the opposite way round. We have gauze blinds on our bedroom window so if they're pulled down and the light is off then I can see out but no one can see in (I have tested this). As soon as the light is on anyone outside can see in.

DH would keep insisting on turning the light on. For years it was a standing joke/playful argument but eventually I lost my rag and said it might not bother him but please can he give me the privacy I have the right to expect for my own body. He's never mentioned it since.

In this instance I think the needs of the person who wants privacy trumps the naked brigade!

I have a privacy screen so I don't have to close my bedroom curtains to change. Otherwise yeah I would close them.

Oooh a privacy screen, I like the sound of that.

Surely this depends on whether you can actually be seen? I have neighbours opposite my bedroom window so always shut the curtains or get dressed away from the window.

It's more for their sake than mine 🤣

If I lived in the middle of nowhere I wouldn't care.

If I’ve got a vest on I always think - but I’m more dressed than at a beach !

We have shutters so you’d have to be really looking hard through the slats

I've never been bothered by this . I'm sure that other people have better things to do than look at me through my window. DH is the same. Not that we would purposely get undressed right in front of our windows, but we don't go around closing curtains or pulling blinds just because we're changing our clothes.

I could have written this about my boyfriend. I live in a tall house with bungalows across the road - and one is empty at the moment. The road itself is a singletrack that leads to a footpath so very little traffic, no buses etc. He gets so twitchy if I have the blinds open even though, as you say - THERE’S NO-ONE THERE!

Depends where the windows are... the majority of our bedroom isn't visible from the window unless you get a ladder propped up against it. So quickly changing away from the window is easy.

But you couldn't walk naked from the bathroom as thats right past the window.

I am completely cavalier. We have no window coverings on any downstairs windows. Nor frosted glass windows in bathrooms/ds loo.

My husband is really paranoid our neighbours can see him in the main bathroom. They really can’t, unless they fly up a drone. Their house isn’t even close. He’s always pulling the blind down.

We’re having this bathroom remodelled and the new bath is going under the window. It will overlook nothing but our garden. This is stressing him to the max.

I live in an apartment, city centre, ground floor, on a busy (but residential) street with a high school at one end and a basketball / football court directly opposite. Our apartment is slightly raised, so people aren’t looking directly in from the street - but everyone in the appartements opposite can.

we have no nets or blinds, just curtains which don’t get closed until it’s proper dark: even then we like seeing what’s going on outside so often leave them open until we are actually going to bed. Curtains are open all day, every day, even in the bedroom (which is at the back but has at least 20 windows looking directly in, I just counted how many I can see from my bed. There are some big trees in the way though.)

i really couldn’t care about whether anyone sees in. I think it’s quite normal here (France) - not many of our neighbours have nets or blinds tbh.

I live in a terrace and leave my curtains open - I could care less about anyone looking. I doubt the neighbours would be staring out the window at that moment anyway.

I generally don’t care but husband closes blinds even though we cannot really be overlooked.
Strangely if we lived in the countryside or isolated I would be far likely to close blinds …would feel very vulnerable!

My neighbours have a massive (huge) corner window in their living room. Not a single blind, curtain or bit of net is used on said window. They have their lights on at night at yku can literally see them in full view. I always feel really awkward passing their house because it's so exposed and they couldn't care less lol

I’m sure the Internet has more exciting videos of ladies than me.

I live alone so I feel vulnerable and therefore like to have curtains/blinds closed when the lights go on, even at the back of the house.

Not overly bothered. My bedroom & bathroom are on the first floor, the bedroom overlooks a road which is a school bus route.

But there is a cherry tree between my window and the road, and even in winter with no leaves on, to be honest, buses pass at about 30mph, so any school boy catching a glimpse of naked thigh will have a fraction of a second and a lot of branches to filter the view. Hardly pornographic !

I have a teenage son so tend to wear pjs when downstairs early morning.

Maybe men are a bit nervous about being accused of deliberately exposing themselves, there are men that do that " accidentally" expose themselves to passersby, nobody would want to be mistaken for that kind of weirdo.
But maybe they are just a bit prudish, my DH is but then he's never seen his parents naked whereas mine were doctors and had a bit of a matter of fact attitude to naked bodies and household nudity, as a result poor DH has seen MY mother naked ( accidentally) but not his own!

No blinds at all. Used to live in deep country where it truly didn't matter but NDNs had nets all during the day and night which I couldn't understand. Now in a town and am careful not to bother the neighbours with the glories of my naked self but still no blinds or nets. Luckily DP is on board, but DSis keeps on asking if I want blinds at the kitchen window. If someone wants to watch me cooking, game on.

I don't care. I don't purposely get dressed right in front of the window but don't bother shutting the curtains. There is zero foot traffic outside our house (we're at the end of a cul de sac, there is nowhere for a pedestrian to go) so I'd only be seen if the people in the house opposite happened to be standing looking out of their upstairs window for exactly the 10 seconds it would take me to (for example) take off one top and put on another.
Getting dressed after a shower or getting changed for bed tends to be when the curtains are closed anyway because it's first thing in the morning or last thing at night.