Baby shower dilemma.

[QueenMabs]

My lovely young colleague is having a baby shower in a few weeks.

I don't know whether to go and how to decline politely

I've had several miscarriages and no children.

I don't really want to go. Do I decline just say I can't do it?

What would you do? I'm in a flap so I need precise words to put in a group chat invite!

Protect yourself OP, I've been there and unless it was a close friend, I'd give it a swerve.

How unfortunate that you've got long term plans that day!

Just say you already have plans.

Hi X,

Thanks so much for the invite to your baby shower! I'm afraid I won't be able to attend as DH and I are visiting family that day. Have a wonderful time!

"Thank you for the invite, colleague, but unfortunately I'm already busy that day. I hope you have a fun time!"

Posted too soon. I was in your position. I knew I couldn't handle it and didn't want to ruin it for them. Luckily they were close enough to know what we were going through so I just told the truth. You don't have any obligation to go and most people would understand. But as its just a colleague I would assume not close enough to go into details.

You can always turn down a social invitation without a reason, it's not rude and in this case if you don't want to go I'd definitely say I'm busy.

Just say you can’t go. Honestly I doubt they will be bothered. I don’t like baby showers and have not been to any, including close friends. When I was pregnant I declined the offer of a friend offering to host one for me. I don’t think anybody was put out.