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(Not very humble) brag

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Obnoxiousmother · 11/03/2023 00:11

Little story.

My 16 yr son is at high school in the USA. He is supposed to reregister for the next school year and my husband told me we had an email from a Mr. NewName at school and our son cannot register for the new school year (private Catholic school). I groan and of course think “what has he done now?” as he had just been taken off academic probation. His grades were high but he was missing too much actual class (mostly due to illness).

So I go into the school to see if I can find Mr NewName as my messages were going to voicemail. Everywhere is deserted and I hear a roar from the gym and remember it’s a special assembly at the end of a fun week for the entire school. So I go over there and see some people milling around with “Staff/faculty” t-shirts on. I approach one of the staff, a woman I don’t know and ask her if she knows who Mr NewName is and what he does? She apologizes and says she works in the cafeteria and doesn’t know all the faculty. So we stand watching the proceedings from the back of the gym and she tells me her dd goes to the school and I tell her my son is a Junior.

She asks me his name
Me: “SonsName”
She steps back and gasps “NOT, SONSNAME???!!!”
And then “Do you live in Distant Suburb?”
I say “yes” dreading what is coming next.
Her: “He is my FAVORITE kid in the whole school and I talk to him everyday!”
She tells me lots of info all about him that he has shared with her. She then proceeds to tell me that she also loves all his friends and what a nice group they are.

Later I find Mr NewName and it wasn’t a serious matter.
So I went from arriving on campus with a sense of dread and leaving in a cheerful mood.
When I saw my son he was delighted I had met Ms. Cafeteria Lady and said she is very funny and they like to have a laugh each day.

I tell this little tale just so mothers of teen boys can have hope!

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ilovemyspace · 11/03/2023 00:19

Absolutely lovely!

( Are you now Proudmother instead of Obnoxiousmother 😃)

Cardamoney · 11/03/2023 00:37

Boys are the best. Produce loud, lively, loving homes in my experience. Well done your son, you’re definitely allowed to brag!

Doggydarling · 11/03/2023 00:50

That reminded me of an incident years ago when collecting my son from school about 30 minutes early for an appointment, he was 15 at the time. I was waiting in the hallway for him when a teacher I vaguely knew greeted me and then said 'John (not real name) made me cry today', the look of horror on my face made her quickly apologise and explain, she'd recently lost her father and it was her first day back at school and my son was the only student who commiserated and asked how she was doing. I was so proud of him.

Obnoxiousmother · 11/03/2023 01:01

@Doggydarling love that 😢❤️ Well done mum for raising such a lovely son.

@Cardamoney the loudest and most physical in every way kid in our home has always as been our middle daughter. In fact she brought our 16 year old son out of his shell when little and they have always been partners in crime, but with her in the lead. She has always been the most athletic and in the greatest range of sports too.

@ilovemyspace I read a study that said boys become measurably more unfriendly and socially difficult around the age of 14 but then improve as they go through to the late teens. So I always clung to that when he was sullen, he has definitely become a lot more open and relaxed even in the last 6 months. It’s a relief as I definitely found him much harder to read than my girls.

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Deathraystare · 11/03/2023 07:50

Well isn't that just great!

newnamethanks · 11/03/2023 08:04

O how nice. I remember that feeling of dread, 'what's he done now?' Such a relief to find a compliment for him rather than approbation. You're raising a lovely boy and a potential good man. Good luck to him and well done mum.

Cardamoney · 11/03/2023 08:37

To be fair I only have sons so no experience of bringing up girls. One of ours absolutely followed the antisocial bit. If out in public and he met you, you’d be lucky if he made eye contact.🤣 Reminded me of the “You ain’t seen me, right?” character in whichever sketch show. The others were always willing to acknowledge my existence in public. All grew up into lovely men who give great cuddles and tell me they love me.

Cardamoney · 11/03/2023 08:51

And interestingly (to me anyway) from that article link- the son who had some problems with depression as an older teen was the one who ignored me in public. So maybe some truth in that.
May your son continue to be an absolute star to you! And your daughter!

Enko · 11/03/2023 08:52

That's such a lovely story 😀

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