What is your dentist like with your child

[purpleme12]

My child is 9
But shy with new people and new situations.
We went to the dentist and she had a filling. (not one where she had to be numbed and didn't have that drill thing)
She didn't say a word during the whole thing (like I say she's shy). I had tried to encourage her about the talking but obviously it didn't work.
I don't feel the dentist tried to build any rapport up with her either though? No real putting her at ease?
Yes she wasn't crying but it must have obvious she was very shy and probably nervous as well.
I expected the dentist might be better with this?
In my opinion he didn't really explain what he was doing to her. Well a bit but not enough.
What is your dentist like with your child?
Is this normal?

Oh - sorry op, I didn't mean you, I meant generally.

I had an orthodontist with an absolutely terrible bedside manner as a child. I’d go home about visiting him and burst into tears. It contributed to my dental phobia as an adult. It’s worth trying to find someone who seems competent and makes the whole experience as positive as possible. These things stick with you.

I'm a dental nurse. IME dentists are hit and miss with kids. They've also got a million things to do and timings to keep etc.... it's the nurses job to do the chatting and hand holding while the dentist cracks on. So bad dental nurse not necessarily a bad dentist