Can anybody help me, please??

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Urgent plea here as I’m at the end of my tether and in a v dark place. My DS (2 years 3 months) has been screaming what feels like all afternoon. His dad going prompted it but it isn’t showing any signs of stopping and distraction, TV, playing outside haven’t worked. I’ve actually had to barricade myself in a room because I can’t cope with it any more. If I try to comfort him he just pushes me away and hits me. Help

oh you poor thing. I was going to say take him outside but I see you did that already. Run him a bath? Is he in pain? Could you convince him to take some calpol? 💐

I'm so sorry for both of you.
Is there a friend who can come over?

If playing outside hasn't worked, could you try just a walk in the buggy to see if he calms down? Or put some music on, something calming like Classic fm?

I think taking that time out was what I needed - he’s calm for now. Problem is it doesn’t seem to take much to start him screaming again, I think it probably is teeth or maybe tiredness but he’s been awful today, I feel absolutely drained and it’s horrible, I hate feeling angry when I know he’s just a confused and upset little boy who can’t communicate what he’s feeling!

You poor thing, that stage/age is so hard. It was a good idea to step into another room to get a bit of breathing space so you stayed calm.

I think you needto give your son a bit of time to calm down.
Watch him from a distance to see that he's safe, but don't try to interact while he's going through this.
Stay as positive and calm as you possibly can. Maybe find some tidying or similar little task to keep you near to your son, but not speaking to him yet.
He will calm and come to you when he's over it.

Was there an argument when his dad left? Is there ongoing relationship trouble?

When they are crabby, put them in water!! Bathtime! Good luck.

So glad he's calmer now. Poor you. Big hug x

It's so hard at that age because even if they can talk a bit they often don't really know what's wrong themselves.

See if you can get some calpol down him if you think it might be teeth. And make a thing of the medicine will help him feel better as even if he isn't in pain it might be enough that it's a bit of a thinking it's working so it does work.

@Redebs - no, he just had to go and pick his car up! (Long story to do with the snow!) but I think DS saw his dad and got all excited and then got really upset when he went out again and then sort of carried on wound up in a state where he’d forgotten what he was originally upset about but was so worked up he couldn’t accept me or anything!

Hes eaten a tangerine and two yoghurts so I think he’s fine now 😂

It really helped being able to vent!

I find a bath or in the buggy and out for a walk is the best thing when they're past themselves like that. If you know he's not sick or hungry or in pain and has a clean bum and you've offered comfort then you've done all you can and sometimes it comes down to self preservation and stepping out for a few moments is the best thing to do to keep yourself calm and regulated. I've walked my wee one through the streets screaming before until he conked out for a sleep. You're not alone and it's really tough going. If he's going through a phase of getting upset when mummy/daddy leaves the house then maybe try a few distraction things so one of you can sneak out before he realises until you find what works?

It may turn out to be the day he was incubating chicken pox.