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Who was being rude?

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Sweetleaves · 09/03/2023 21:41

Someone invites a family member to stay with them for a couple of months, gives them a room and the guest makes an absolute mess in the best with piles of unfolded clothes on the bed, undone bed, etc...
On day, the guest closes the bedroom door and goes out for a walk without having cleaned the bedroom. While they are out, the host takes a picture of the bedroom and sends it via email to friends and family members.

Who was being rude? The guest or the host?

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Dacadactyl · 09/03/2023 21:57

Im curious, what is the relationship between the host and guest?

I mean, I wouldn't mind if my sister posted that on the family group chat about me, if id left her spare room like that.

Doubt she'd get het up about me doing it to her either. We'd prob just have a laugh about it.

Depends on the relationship and how you normally get on tbh.

HeddaGarbled · 09/03/2023 21:57

The host. An unmade bed with unfolded clothes on it is not “an absolute mess”. It’s a room in use, perhaps more messily than some people like, but not offensive, and the host has no business going in there whilst their guest is staying.

BevMarsh · 09/03/2023 21:57

The host

L1ttledrummergirl · 09/03/2023 21:58

The host. If the guest has been given a room to use then the host shouldn't be going in there. As long as it is returned in the same state as they found it, how they live in it is up to them. The only exception is if something about it is impacting the rest of the house, smells for example.

The host should certainly not have posted pictures online, especially some that were intended to embarrass and humiliate their guest. That's appalling behaviour. With friends like that you don't need enemies!

SirChenjins · 09/03/2023 21:58

Sweetleaves · 09/03/2023 21:53

Can't send the picture, but pretty much looked like this minus the clothes on the floor but with two beds instead of a double bed and even more clothes on both beds

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Bloody hell - that’s bad. I mean, you just don’t treat someone else’s house that way.

DESGUSTING · 09/03/2023 21:58

How are they related?

Who was the text sent to?
I wouldn't care if it just to my immediate family, but aunties uncles cousins grandparents yes I'd be pissed.

Guest should tidy up but if host was going to be that bothered by mess then should have stated firstly.
Host is wrong to send to wider family

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Sweetleaves · 09/03/2023 21:58

Dacadactyl · 09/03/2023 21:57

Im curious, what is the relationship between the host and guest?

I mean, I wouldn't mind if my sister posted that on the family group chat about me, if id left her spare room like that.

Doubt she'd get het up about me doing it to her either. We'd prob just have a laugh about it.

Depends on the relationship and how you normally get on tbh.

Aunt and niece

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Sweetleaves · 09/03/2023 22:02

Okunevo · 09/03/2023 21:57

Assume they would put away the clothes before bed or how would they sleep?

The clothes were eventually put away later on but not until night time

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autienotnaughty · 09/03/2023 22:02

The host. Just a dick thing to do. Presumably the guest would take their clothes when they leave so what's the problem?

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Sweetleaves · 09/03/2023 22:05

Thank you all for your replies

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DESGUSTING · 09/03/2023 22:06

Sweetleaves · 09/03/2023 22:05

Thank you all for your replies

Which are you?

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Sweetleaves · 09/03/2023 22:19

DESGUSTING · 09/03/2023 22:06

Which are you?

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I was the guest. It happened a while back and in retrospect I should have been more considerate but I did wonder if she wasn't also in the wrong. Just popped in my mind tonight and wanted some objective opinions. I'm not in touch with my aunt anymore sadly

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MichelleScarn · 09/03/2023 22:27

Sweetleaves · 09/03/2023 21:53

Can't send the picture, but pretty much looked like this minus the clothes on the floor but with two beds instead of a double bed and even more clothes on both beds

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If its like this and the clothes were dirty can imagine would be quite smelly and grim?
If they were clean, could they not have been put away?
I don't think I'd believe someone would allow the room they were using in someone else's house to get to that level of a state without seeing a photo. It's bad!

MichelleScarn · 09/03/2023 22:28

Oh and your photo!

Who was being rude?
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Sweetleaves · 09/03/2023 22:45

MichelleScarn · 09/03/2023 22:27

If its like this and the clothes were dirty can imagine would be quite smelly and grim?
If they were clean, could they not have been put away?
I don't think I'd believe someone would allow the room they were using in someone else's house to get to that level of a state without seeing a photo. It's bad!

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They were clean. I has ordered some clothes and were sorting them out and decided to sort out my old clothes as well and get rid of what I wasn't wearing so I took them out the closet and put them along with my new clothes on the bed. So it looked messier before it looked cleaner if that made sense.

Admittedly, I went out to walk the dog before this was finished and when I came back I had food so it didn't get sorted until night time

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EspeciallyDedicated · 09/03/2023 22:46

The host definitely, even if it did look similar to the photo you posted.

TaRaDeBumDeAy · 09/03/2023 22:49

The host.

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