What's the worst thing you've ever done?

[SummerGames]

A few things come to my mind: during my very first relationship, I developed feelings for my DP's brother. Nothing ever happened but DP found out about my feelings in a really unexpected way and he was absolutely gutted. I was quite young but still, I feel awful about it now.

I also led someone on who I knew had feelings for me. I knew I didn't return their feelings but I unintentionally kept them on the backburner because I was scared of being single. I'm pretty sure he still hates me now even though it's been many years.

I'm sure there are other things, but those are a couple that come to mind. What's the worst thing you've ever done?

I stole a man from his wife. We didn’t have any kind of affair and in fact were completely NC for an entire year while he got divorced but nonetheless, he left her because of me. We got married and had a daughter and we’re blissfully happy but he died at 42 and I’ve always felt it was my punishment. I’ve never forgiven myself.

@peachgreen I'm sorry, it must be really hard to live

*live with.

Graffiti as a teen. Stupid infidelity as a twenty something. Grew up quicksmart when I found the one.

Have always felt bad that I killed a number of tadpoles as a child. Still regret it 40 years on.

Committed perjury to cover my admin error (civil insurance claim where I acted for plaintiff).

Got married. Because the ensuing divorce was the worse thing I have ever been through. My lovely husband and "soul mate" became a narcissistic horror. It's changed me forever.

Dumped my fiancé two months before our planned wedding then got a new boyfriend two weeks later.

I was very young. And he really wasn't right for me. But it still feels a bit callous.

Married my husband's best friend. I've paid for it in emotional debt. But also been rewarded by the child we had together so ying/yang.

I used to regret marrying my first husband and tied myself up in knots trying to atone for my sins, but now I'm older, I have 3 marvellous adult children that wouldn't be here if I'd walked a different path, so I'm glad I marred both of them. Even though both ended in divorce. No regrets at all now.

I’ve two….
slapped my first boyfriend in public because I was drunk and he’d done something to piss me off. I didn’t see anything wrong with it at the time because people in films did it. Regret it hugely now, feel terrible about it (and actually the way I treated him, I was a total nightmare and abusive towards him). We have no contact now, I don’t even know where in the country he is, so I can’t apologise, but I wish I could. I learnt a lot and changed - I’m no way like this with my DH! But I can’t undo the way I treated my first partner (we were in our late teens / early twenties)

secondly I posted something about my then company to a industry gossip website, thinking it would be funny. I lost my career over it (a career I hated but still).

all in all I would say my twenties were quite a low point in the way of self awareness and making good choices!

I'd actually say that's the best thing - you halted things before the wedding. That's kinder than what I did, which was marry someone knowing that I didn't really want to. We then divorced a year later. A ridiculous, hurtful waste of time.

Hmmm. Mine is not that bad (though my little Brother will argue that point!). Dad had bought me one of those transistor radios. It came with a cheap plastic case. I was swinging in around 'Dolly Girl style" and the hanging strap fell off.

My dad asked what happened and I told him my little Brother had broken it. This was a complete lie and my Dad bollocked him! I felt that punishment!!!

@Deathraystare it's funny how childhood hurts can still be held onto - my dad still brings up something similar from his childhood where he was blamed for something he didn't do.