DH is unwell and I’m catastrophizing

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DH has a fever and I’m catastrophizing, hopefully it will pass in a day or two and I’ll get over myself.

DH was very unwell a couple of years ago and had some poor levels of care when in hospital. He was vomiting which the dr said was a medical emergency, the nurse minimised it and said he would be discharged. When the dr came a little while later he was whisked into surgery. It has made me feel wore worried when someone in my house gets unwell.

Now DH has a fever and aches and pains in his body. He doesn’t have any signs of a cold, if he did I don’t think I would worry as I would assume flu. I’ve got it in my head he has something awful like leukaemia. I’ve kept it to myself as I realise I’m being over anxious.

How do I learn to relax over this sort of thing?

Most likely flu or covid. The most likely explanation is usually the one.

I've had a fever for a few days with no other symptoms - presume it's a virus.

It's hard when you've been through something like that but ultimately remember than even after that he was fine.

You have to accept somehow that is is unlikely to be something like leukaemia, and also that he is likely to get ill from time to time so you will need to keep facing illness. If it is impossible to manage your anxiety on this issue I would seek counselling OP or go to your GP as you are, as you say, catastrophising and it is so exhausting to live like that.

Flu often does not come with cold like symptoms at all and is the most likely explanation.

Flu virus or Covid. Has he tested?
Treat the symptoms: he should keep warm, drink as much fluid as he can, take paracetamol to reduce aches.

Going into a flap over a raised temperature is massively overreacting and you're not in the slightest bit helping your husband. You're making his illness all about you, so maybe your starting point should be staying calm to help him recover faster.