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Help me get some perspective

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CanIbeRio · 06/03/2023 21:26

I am an emetophobe. Ever since noro reared it's evil head about 10 yrs ago, I've been terrified of catching it.
This has worsened over the last few years as my dd has health anxiety and also emetophobia (she doesn't know I
have it, I've tried to keep it from her)...she would be dreadful to deal with if she caught it. I'm also worried about my elderly, infirm parents catching anything from us as my mum really wouldn't cope with it at all as she has mobility issues and clearing anything up off the floor would be hard for her.
So....I do go out but thus worry is always on my mind. I try not to use loos and am always gelling my hands (I know hand gels aren't supposed to be effective against it, but they're my comfort blanket). I particularly hate doctors and hospital's really make me panicky.
I'll ask my family them to wash their hands as soon as they get in from being out and about and I push hand gel when we are out together.
I work from home, so does dh largely and dd has just dropped out if 6th form so is largely at home herself at the moment. I've noticed that everytime I go out I expect to get ill....then I think of the millions of people who are out in the community working, using public transport and socialising on a daily basis who my common sense tells me aren't getting sick every day.
My dd joined a gym tonight and I've been panicking that she's bound to be ill aa she used equipment then ate some biscuits before washing her hands. I also insisted she change her clothes when she got in and she got so frustrated with me. I'm getting so wound up with worry it's so draining.
Can you give me back some perspective please...as I say, every time one of us goes out, I fear the worst!! I go shopping, to the pub/coffee shop a few times a month, never use public transport and everytime I expect to possibly be ill. I feel like I'm going mad! Help

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Riverlee · 06/03/2023 21:35

I think covid has made the situation worst and made us all abit more afraid.

However, if everything we touch was harmful, then the human race would have died of years ago.

Sorry, can’t help regarding your anxiety. Can you arrange a telephone call with your gp (so you don’t have to visit the surgery)?

Riverlee · 06/03/2023 21:40

anxiety uk

Emetophbia help

young minds - for dc

Some organisations which may be able to help(I’ve not used them, just did a Google search, although misspelt it and came up with an insect charity!)

CanIbeRio · 06/03/2023 21:41

Thanks @Riverlee .....this is exactly the kind if thing I need to hear.....

However, if everything we touch was harmful, then the human race would have died of years ago.

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CanIbeRio · 06/03/2023 21:42

Thank you....really helpful. I'll have a look at those links

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Quitelikeit · 06/03/2023 21:47

Sadly your child has inherited this illness from you and that is because you have not sought proper treatment.

environments shape us and that is what your home has done to your daughter.

you need to contact a professional asap as there is no rational thing about anxiety. Yours is out of control

wishing you the best buy you can’t do this alone

CanIbeRio · 06/03/2023 21:52

@Quitelikeit
Thank you for being so frank. I've really tried not to let this affect dd....but I accept I've probably failed. Therapy is something I do need to consider

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