Finding a job after losing the dream job

[Picklington]

I’m keeping this vague to avoid it being outing but basically I am being dismissed from my job. It’s based on competency with things that are kind of fair but also I feel once they were picked up on were pursued in a way that set me up to fail a bit and the was I was monitored got me so stressed I couldn’t focus on improving because I felt so judged.

Whats really upsetting me now is there’s a task that I did early days that was observed/monitored that I could have done better on but just didn’t consider the consequences of it well enough. That flagged up my weakness and I do feel if I’d done that better I wouldn’t have been through the whole stressful process leading to this.

iIs also a really good job that I’ve been enjoying a lot of the other aspects of and would actually love to keep doing and even though I think the assessment of my weakness is kind of fair I do think I could do the job well.

I’m alone now and feeling really down about it and hoped some of you might have “it all worked out for the best” storied from similar situations or just a comment/joke to cheer me up a bit!

Am in similar position OP, you’re not alone

Sorry to hear that @user764329056 hope you’re doing okay

I'd love to hear how you guys are doing, as I've found myself in the same position of late and am really struggling

Am also in the same situation. It's been a few months now and there are such few roles out there.

Since I left though, the man who criticised everything I did and destroyed my self esteem has left and has started his own competing firm. Turns out he had purposely sabotaged people's work!

But nobody has asked me back....gutted

Feeling very low.

hi - this happened to me a decade ago. I found it devastating at the time. I was ready to have kids and they put me through a competency course with HR which I was set up to fail. I work in a particularly sexist industry - this was before gender pay gap assessments etc, the place was full of absolute dinosaurs. Anyway, I started doing more exercise and wrote myself a 1 page plan of where I wanted to be in 5 years and then took steps to get there every day. The plan included having kids and continuing in my chosen career despite the setback as I refused to let those dinosaurs rule my life. Within 9 months I had a new job in the same industry; with 2 years I had a baby and a promotion to ahead of where I’d been at the last place, and now I’m performing well ahead of the tossers who sacked me (performance in my industry is easily measurable). The 9 months between jobs were hard but I had trained hard for this career and didn’t see why some tossers should bring me down and derail me. Keep strong, write your plan, keep focused, keep your head held high. Contact as many relevant recruiters as you can, nurture relationships with them, explain the job loss as a bad fit. You own this, it’s really hard but hang in there and don’t accept others controlling your career. Very best of luck x

I made a silly but serious mistake in a new job once and tried to cover it up. Next thing I was out with no notice pay.

I did survive, it took a few months to find something else and this was late pandemic era. The new job was better and led to better things even though it was a fixed term contract nog a perm role.

Life moves on and so will you, upsetting though it must feel right now.