A mum will always defend their child, even when they are wrong

[Whatacouk]

I was just told that and was wondering what you guys thought

Support and love, defend the indefensible, no

It depends on what you mean by defend. I don't think I'd try to make excuses for ds if he did something wrong and I'd encourage him to take responsibility for his mistakes and to learn from them but equally I'd want consequences to be fair and proportionate to what happened. I probably wouldn't want them to affect him long term if it's something he can learn from but again it really depends on what the mistake/ action is and the severity of it. I'd stand by him no matter what - I don't need to agree with his behaviour to still love/support him as a person and encourage him to be his best self.

It obviously depends what they did wrong. Some mothers will defend their kid even if they murdered someone. Mine always said she would dob me in

Defend? Absolutely not. If they done something wrong they should be held completely accountable. I would offer support to them after they've held their hands up and would be there for them regardless but never in a million years would I defend something that's wrong.

I would never turn my back on my child and nothing could make me stop loving him, but I don't jump to his defense when he's done something wrong nor do I offer up excuses for behavior that I know is wrong.

Stand by them, support and love but I would never excuse them.

rubbish

Well, if a reward was being offered....😂

Thats exactly what I thought

Got 4 and if there in the wrong I will never defend them, they own up to what they do and fix it if they can

Nope. There are a lot of parents out there who do though. They simply don’t want to know their child can lie, be unkind, cheat etc. I don’t understand it as it does the child no kindness in the long run.

It's really sad, because parents who do this, do it out of love but they are just failing their children

An important part of being a parent is teaching and supporting your child to take responsibility for their actions.

That's not how I remember my childhood!

Nope. Support, love, but not defend if they are in the wrong.

Absolutely not. My daughter goes thru hell everyday because that is how her father was raised. No matter that her father committed domestic violence in front of her at her birthday party his mother defends him and cut her granddaughter off for telling the truth. Her father at nearly 50 has a terrible life because his bad choices his mother defends. Sorry it's been a bad night but no defending no matter what is terrible parenting

No if my child had done something wrong id call them out on it

Nope. Additionally, this is why I emphasise so much to mine about not lying to me about anything..even silly stuff about biscuits or whatever. If I don't trust them, if I can't absolutely know that their version of events is true, I can't back them. Sadly one of mine finds this v v hard 😟