This feeling of melancholy never leaves

[Mrsdragonfly]

I can’t seem to shake this sad low feeling.

I have three kids (two have special needs so attend a specialist school). I’ve got back into work thankfully term time only as they can’t access holiday care but there’s always a deep sadness that I can’t seem to shake. Raising the kids who are autistic have been hard and isolating but now they’re both in school, I feel I should feel better but I don’t. I just feel sad and empty. We’ve got a nice house, we don’t have money worries, I should be grateful but instead I just feel sad.

Sorry to hear this. It is hard when children start school and pass on to the next phase of their lives and you have additional needs to support which is likely to add to the stress. Do you think you might be suffering from depression? Eating, sleeping ok?

I’m really pleased they’re settled (they’re 13 and 10). I definitely eat too much but I do get a decent amount of sleep unless the youngest wakes in the night. Both kids have complex needs so there’s still a lot of ups and downs but I just thought I’d feel happier. I just constantly feel wound really tightly.

How old are you OP?

well as a fellow parent of a few children with additional needs I hear you.
I think living with the constant extra stress and pressure the situation brings takes a massive toll on your mental health over time.
I have no idea what the answer is though as there is so little respite and support out there leading to families being v isolated.
Small things that help.are talking to others in the same position and enjoying small things like a good book or film with a nice cup.of tea and yes a big piece of cake!
I would struggle to work outside the home as well even if I could ( which I cant as youngest requires round the clock medical care ar home ) so hats off to you for that. x

@TheOGCCL, I’ve just turned 40.

@flapjackfairy, I’m lucky I work remotely. Well mostly. Occasionally go into the office but get back in time for when the kids buses get home. Though balancing it all is stressful. I think I just feel incredibly burnt out by everything.

@Mrsdragonfly
that must be a big help but I imagine it must also be quite isolating. At least going to the office is social contact and a change of scene I guess
I go a bit stir crazy being at home so much sometimes .
To be honest you have a lot on your plate and I can completely understand the burnout .
Can you take some time off to just chill or go out for coffee etc.