Newly separated from DH and struggling with sharing ds

[Andjustlikethat27]

For clarity I don't mean I'm struggling with dh seeing him, this is all new to me and it's very painful still.
It's been over 4 weeks now and I'm still trying to find my feet as to what is acceptable.
DH never used to spend anytime with ds when he lived with us, he literally sat in the pub until ds was in bed then came home. At weekends he would make excuses to go out or spend hours in his shed or washing his van etc.

Now he's left I've said he has to make actual time to see ds but am I allowed to ask where they are going?! I feel lost and empty and not knowing where my 4 yr old is scary to me. Is this unreasonable?! Also on the days we've arranged he sees ds, is it ok for him still to call and speak every other day? He never did that when he lived with us. Even tho he does this fake crying (for my benefit) and upsets ds?! I've told him not to do this but he still does.

Anyone?

I think it's ok to ask but don't expect an answer.
If your trust your ex with your son then unfortunately as a separated parent your going to have to get used to not knowing where your child is 24/7.
I split up with my ex when my son was a year old. It's devastating and learning to live with the moments of missing out is hard but a child is entitled to both parents.
It sounds a bit like you ex is using your child to get at you - fake crying while on a call with a child is a dick move....
But if he does do it I would simply say "daddy seems to be having a connection issue - let's call him back soon" and disconnect the call.
Your priority is your child. He isn't a pawn for you or your ex and parents need to learn that and put the child first.
Speak to your ex. Tell him it's not good for your child to see him upset and tell him that you will always call him back but he needs to stop the fake tears.

Maybe he's realised what he's losing. Just give him a chance to prove himself.