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When does an opinion become a whinge ?

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tellmetellmee · 03/03/2023 15:30

For context. This morning in the car partner and I were driving to view a car. Got lost going there. I was the driver and he had addresses etc. we'd been in out running errands and I'd been in the car for 1.5 hours. I was saying this is taking ages to get here, feels like a waste of my time (my only day off) and he said stop whinging and I was ruining his morning. I responded well I've been in the car since after 9am, it's now 11am, it will take 10 mins to look at car then another 40 odd mins to get back. He got really annoyed and said stop whinging. And I was insistent this was my opinion of the morning and yet he thinks it's a whinge. Whatever we want to call it he does like to hear anything like this. He works away a lot, retuned last night and remained adamant I was not whinging just stating obvious. Then dropped it. In the end I've sat here for the afternoon thinking he doesn't seem to care about my opinion/whinge and less bothered about what you call it and more bothered about his lack of care of how I've spent my morning. Ps car was horrible in the end

My question is when does an opinion become a whinge? When someone says it more than twice ? Because I am not a whinger and so not like to be categorised as one

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Skinnermarink · 03/03/2023 15:32

I don’t really like the term whinge for non toddlers but if you were going on a bit and repeating the same things I can see it would have been a bit annoying.

MargaretThursday · 03/03/2023 16:00

Whinge for me is complaining about it, especially in detail, especially if nothing can/will be done or refusing all suggestions to help.

It does sound like you had a bit of a whinge to me from the: "I've been in the car since after 9am, it's now 11am, it will take 10 mins to look at car then another 40 odd mins to get back". All true, but presumably (barring the getting lost) fairly predictable, and at that point nothing either of you could do about it.

I don't expect he was too pleased about getting lost, having lots of errands that take ages etc, having you moan about it was probably last straw.

whatausername · 03/03/2023 16:07

That's a lot of energy to spend thinking and writing about a non-incident on your day off. Either you are truly a whinger or something is off elsewhere in your life.

ReneBumsWombats · 03/03/2023 16:08

It was a whinge but you were entitled to it.

WeWereInParis · 03/03/2023 16:09

I don't think they're necessarily different things. It sounds like a bit of a whingey opinion.

zurala · 03/03/2023 16:10

Yeah you were whinging. Going on about something negatively is very draining for other people.

TeenLifeMum · 03/03/2023 16:12

I’d be pretty hurt for dh described spending time sitting in a car with me a “waste of his day off”. But then I like being around him so we’d enjoy each other’s company while doing mundane stuff.

Motheranddaughtertotwo · 03/03/2023 16:12

I’d have found you slightly annoying too. It’s one of those situations where it is what it is and if you can’t change it then moaning won’t help.

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