Anyone else prefer their drunk personality?

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I’ve had a lot of people in my life say I completely change when I’m drunk, but in a good way. People generally seem to love drunk me and people who normally wouldn’t give me the time of day when I’m sober want to talk to me and be around me when I’ve had a few drinks. I don’t need many, even just one glass of wine dramatically improves my personality. I guess I let my guard down, let my mask slip. I’m quite childlike, I feel free.

Sober me (around people I don’t know very well) is very reserved and quiet, a bit socially awkward. I find social situations scary and exhausting. Going to a social occasion and not drinking frankly terrifies me.

Sometimes “drunk me” comes out when I’m completely sober but with people I completely trust and doing something I love. So I feel like this is my true personality, I just wish I could be that all the time without the drink!

Am I alone in this?

No I feel the same!

sober me is uptight, anxious and logical

drunk me is funny, silly and encouraging!

i often wish I was drunk all the time - but I actually hate ‘being’ drunk! I just love drunk me!

Nope. Sober me is fun, reliable and social. Drunk me - depends. I can be happy and fun dancing away. Or sad and serious. I don’t drink much now

Honestly yes and no. Drunk me is more confident, relaxed, less anxious and happier and unfortunately I end up craving that sensation of confidence and relief, very aware I'm high risk of becoming an alcoholic. I'm also not a great drunk, I don't get chatty and silly, I get horny and aggressive so I tend to avoid social drinking at all costs.
From personal experience, if you start wishing you were the person you are when drunk all the time or when sober, keep a close eye on yourself and find something else that gives you that sensation, because before you know it, you'll find yourself drinking earlier and earlier in the day just to get more time in that happy version of yourself.

Yes. I'm just me without the inhibitions. I don't do anything outrageous that I wouldn't dream if doing another time, I just do the things I'd usually be too shy to do. Like chat with someone at the bar or dance. It doesn't take much, the "feeling" comes within a few sips and I don't drink excessively. I never show myself up, I just feel a bit more comfortable.

I love “one glass of wine” me. More relaxed, more positive, more fun. But not three plus glasses me and definitely not the hangover. Trouble is one leads to three plus very easily.

Not alone at all, this is me. I work hard and let my hair down and have fun when I've had a drink

Me.
I'm boring sober, and vivacious after a few. Pretty sure I'm even a better parent after 1 glass of wine.
Very aware I have to keep an eye on this.
Truth is I actually prefer being slightly drunk to totally sober.

The thing is, any confidence you think a bottle gives you, you actually already had innately. Alcohol just lowers your inhibitions ie the barriers you subconsciously place that lower your confidence when you’re sober.

Pretty sure I'm even a better parent after 1 glass of wine.

Me too! And definitely a nicer wife.

I hate drunk me, I always find something to cry about.

I could have wrote that word for word when I was about 18. I'm in my 30s now and have gradually learnt to lower my guard down without drink, by having counselling.

Yes! Much more go with the flow

Yep that’s me after three plus glasses AllofThem. There’s a worryingly quick change from tipsy = happy relaxed to drunk = sad or angry.

Absolutely - my social anxiety disappears.

When sober if I’m chatting to someone I need to fidget, either play with my hair, tap a pen, fiddle with my clothes. I notice myself doing it and it drives me insane.

1 glass of wine me is relaxed, happy to have conversations and actually enjoy the company of others without overthinking. I’m also more fun.

No - drunk me's a tit!

Absolutely not. Usually end up being too loud and overbearing and cringe for a week after, vowing to never drink again. Until the next weekend.

I love being drunk and think I'm hilarious - strange but other people don't seem to! Sadly, I am very boring now as I haven't had a drink for almost a year.

Sometimes I yearn for those drunken days!

Oh yes, I like this thread! I definitely like the way I feel after a nice glass of wine when I'm out. I'm uptight & a bit judgy sometimes but much more relaxed after a drink. I agree with a pp that I wish I felt like that all the time: relax, cheerful, easy going. It's nice to actually acknowledge that feeling!

Yep same here! 🍷

Me, absolutely! It's depressing because I accept it's a bit sad to rely on alcohol to socialise. But I'm socially awkward, that's just how I'm made. Other than with close family and friends I sit and genuinely can't think of a single thing to say that anyone would be remotely interested in. But after 2 glasses of wine I start conversation after conversation. It's bizarre.

Yes. Tipsy me is the confident me that friends get when I'm sober but served up for people who I feel socially uncomfortable with mainly because of my own inhibitions. And I can (and do) do it without drink but it's incredibly exhausting because I have to fight off my own critical inner voice the whole time. I do try use it as a benchmark to aim for sober tho.

I am a brilliant drunk.

Two - six pints of lager and I am a complete joy. Then I get tired.

In day to day life, I am very depressed and dealing with more than one person should ever have to cope with.

I haven’t had a drink in 4 years though as we moved house and now I don’t have any friends to go out with, drinking at home isn’t the same so I don’t bother.

I used to be like that, but tbh it was because the sober me had low self esteem. I think drunkness comes with its risk of doing/saying something that can't be undone.

@PleasantZen if you don’t mind me asking what kind of counselling worked? I’ve tried a few in my time but nothing that’s helped long term. So much of what everyone is saying resonates with me, I’m sure alcohol just shuts up the critical voice inside me that makes me socially awkward and I have low self esteem.

Absolutely, I really like slightly drunk me.

I also say I would be a far more relaxed parent if I had a drink as soon as the children got home from school.

However it's also the way I feel when we are camping, so I either need to drink more often or spend more time living in a tent.