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Mental health Day

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Viperama · 02/03/2023 11:11

AIBU to advise school I’m taking 8yo out for a mental health day tomorrow?

DC has numerous times advised teacher this year is scary and gets very cross. DC is a good kid, gets on with everyone, great communication. When it’s good everything ticks along nicely, but Tuesday DC misunderstood and took home some work that was an active project and felt so bullocked yesterday by teacher that DC felt sick to tummy after and then began to worry about other things DC may of forgotten but couldn’t check bag as fearful DC would get in further trouble for checking out of turn.

parent teacher meetings next week, am in the midst of typing an email to teacher (waiting DH sense check). so raising on paper and saying we want to discuss what school can do to assure child there is nothing to fear at school.

but wondering how schools respond to Mental health day off sick? DC needs it, I would have kept them off today but it’s world book day and would be heartbroken to miss this.
Mental health day might make school take more seriously?
I take no prisoners where childrens mental health is concerned. It’s the next generation and it’s our job to protect them.

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soleilblue · 02/03/2023 11:14

DC will need to learn how to cope with things that make them anxious.

I am not sure what happened here "felt so bullocked yesterday by teacher that DC felt sick to tummy after and then began to worry about other things DC may of forgotten but couldn’t check bag as fearful DC would get in further trouble for checking out of turn."

Do you think taking them out and avoiding this teacher will help in the long term? I would talk to the school and see what they advise. Work with them.

Nimbostratus100 · 02/03/2023 11:17

your Dc needs to be in school

You are just setting them up for catastrophe, telling them they need a "mental health day" because they got told off.

YOu will be back here in a few years desperate for help because you can't cope with a school refuser who is heading for zero qualifications and zero job prospects

percypercypercy · 02/03/2023 11:18

Mental health day might make school take more seriously?

It makes it sound ridiculous and doesn't really help the problem. I would have been on the phone to address any issues straight away. If your child genuinely isn't coping in school this needs to be dealt with asap. Emphasis on a mental health day is nonsense, unless your child actually had mental health problems, it's just a day off. Call it what it is. A day off while you contact school and sort out a minor issue

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Nimbostratus100 · 02/03/2023 11:18

and the school won't "take you seriously" if you claim you are keeping your child off for those reason - they won't authorise it, and they will have you pegged too

AnneLovesGilbert · 02/03/2023 11:19

If he could go in today he can go in tomorrow and then it’s the weekend and you can have a nice fun restful couple of days.

WandaWonder · 02/03/2023 11:21

Kids going to school is taken seriously not parents deciding their kids don't have to go for no reason

TurnipSurprise · 02/03/2023 11:23

If he genuinely needed a mental health day then he would need it today, he can in today, then he can go in tomorrow.

Your child will get told off in school, no child comes through school without getting told off ever.

Your job is to teach some resilience. Have a word with the school if you think the consequences were disproportionate to the misdemeanour but ultimately help your child with confidence.

percypercypercy · 02/03/2023 11:25

I take no prisoners where childrens mental health is concerned.

If you had a child who actually suffered with their mental health you really wouldn't be saying this.

It’s the next generation and it’s our job to protect them.

What exactly are you trying to protect your child from?

DismantledKing · 02/03/2023 11:27

You’re being ridiculous

Sharkpenis · 02/03/2023 13:03

This isnt a mental health day. Its giving your child a day off.

My daughter has mental health days because she can not actually get out of bed or out the door. She is under CAMHS and has play therapy and we are getting her into a theraputic school. THATS what mental health days are for. Not having a day off because a teacher told them off.

TeenDivided · 02/03/2023 13:10

If he genuinely needed a mental health day then he would need it today, he can in today, then he can go in tomorrow.

Although I'm not unsympathetic, I think this above is what I think.
I think you need to talk to the teacher about how your DC feels, and you need to help your DC, but a 'mental health day' delayed because of World Book Day is not the way to go.

If the teacher is really impacting your DC then you need to consider moving schools.

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