Coffee with an old flame

[TheresAlwaysTimeForTea]

Hello. I met my friend today and mentioned to her that I'm meeting an old boyfriend for coffee. We went out about 20years ago and have stayed in touch on and off. Like maybe every five years type thing. No flirting or anything inappropriate. Both married with kids etc.

Anyway she said I'm playing with fire and there's no reason to meet up with him as we have nothing in common etc. My husband is totally fine with it, its just meant to be a catch up type thing and I'm happy to cancel if it's an issue but do you think there's anything wrong with this? Or am I being dense?

If there are no romantic feelings there and your husband is fine with it, I see no issue! Providing his wife is also aware, and fine with it.

Ditto what @BridieConvert said , I don't see a problem

It's fine if it's fine with you and your husband.
Not fine for me though, as I've been burned by that fire in the past so it's not something I'd be ok with.
My very good friend was cool with something very similar a few years back, and guess what, it wasn't fine. Your friend may have some reason to have implemented that particular boundary in her life. As did I.
Everyone is different.

As Long as your dh is aware , and if he did the same you'd be ok with it , then can't see a problem.

One of my best friends is an ex. That flame burned out a hell of a long time ago!

Thanks - same kinda thinking as me. It's not going to be a regular thing. I totally respect my friends view on it. It was just a bit of a surprise that she thought there'd be more to it.

Not sure if he's said anything to his wife. I assume so but I'd feel like it would be a leading Q to ask "does your wife know about this" as if I'm implying we're up to something. It's just a quick coffee at 11 during a work day so not like a long alcohol filled dinner, can't imagine she'd bat an eye but that's for him to decide I think.

Cheers for comments.