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Without thinking/Off top of head.. Regrets?!

55 replies

Wilff · 27/02/2023 17:01

If you had to say something straight away, at this precise moment...
What are you regrettable about ?

(Actually maybe top 3.. in order)

OP posts:
America12 · 27/02/2023 18:51

Having children
Not going to uni straight from school
Debt

Disydoll12 · 27/02/2023 18:54
  • putting other people's needs constantly above my own, therefore having no direction in life
  • allowing a woman to get away with projecting her vileness onto me and walking away, never telling her exactly what she is
  • I wish I had moved abroad when I had the opportunity 😢
Leakingtoilet · 27/02/2023 18:59
  1. Not getting a proper career when young
2.Drinking too much/doing too many drugs/binge eating when young and ruining my health.
  1. Getting into so much debt and not buying a house when young

To be fair to myself all of these could have possibly been avoided had I got correctly diagnosed and medicated as a child but doesn't stop me regretting them

eztiger · 27/02/2023 19:04

My divorce - I initiated it, I know it was the right thing, but I still find myself regretting it

PermanentTemporary · 27/02/2023 19:15
  1. Not going to my uncle's funeral. I've never been quite as close to my cousins since.
  1. Being a twat on day 1 of a new job last year. I was so bloody nervous and it came out as showing off - in my 50s. Permanently damaged a relationship at work beyond repair and I don't blame her.
VanillaSox · 27/02/2023 19:19

Not realising my worth in jobs and relationships when young
Not leaving my marriage years ago
Not getting my ducks in a row before I eventually left

33goingon64 · 27/02/2023 19:33

Nothing. There's no point regretting. Learn and move on.

iamnottoofatiamjusttooshort · 27/02/2023 19:33

Not shouting loud enough about CSA

Accepting shit behaviour from men

My first tattoo

Sideorderofchips · 27/02/2023 19:35

Not appreciating and conti using my education
Making friends with a certain person
Divorcing my ex

Rogue1001MNer · 27/02/2023 19:39

I've had a few.
But then again
Too few to mention

Jesko · 27/02/2023 19:44

Spending far too many years being far too overweight, and missing out on things because I felt shit about myself.

Letting the weight loss go to my head and walking the line of an emotional affair.

Not being a good friend; deep down I think I'm the boring friend that people just put up with, so I back out of the friendship before they do it.

AffIt · 27/02/2023 19:48
  1. Not a regret per se - more of a 'what if?' - but not going to Oxford. I was offered a place at Brasenose at 16 (am Scottish, summer-born so young for my year anyway and was subsequently bumped up a year, hence doing my school-leaving exams at a v young age): however, I turned it down, as I wasn't ready to go to university and they wouldn't defer my entry. I went to another RG uni, have a terrific professional career etc now, but I do sometimes wonder what my life would look like had I taken that offer up.
  2. Not wearing sunscreen on my hands. I'm horsey / outdoorsy and my hands look older than I would like them to.
  3. Buying that fucking potato ricer during lockdown. It gets on my wick every time I open the cupboard it lives in ('cos it's too bloody big and awkward to go in a drawer), but I'm too parsimonious to just get rid of it (and also think optimistically that it might come in handy one day).
Whythelying · 27/02/2023 19:49

Responding to the crazy behaviour.
Not walking away sooner.
Wasting my time with them.

GuyFawkesDay · 27/02/2023 19:53

Giving up piano at 18

Not taking art A level because I wanted to go to Oxford

Not listening to my own instincts when I was younger. Could have saved myself a lot of hassle

coodawoodashooda · 27/02/2023 19:56

iamnottoofatiamjusttooshort · 27/02/2023 19:33

Not shouting loud enough about CSA

Accepting shit behaviour from men

My first tattoo

How do you shout about the CSA?

thaegumathteth · 27/02/2023 19:57
  1. Getting fat
  2. Losing touch with friends from Uni
  3. Worrying too much
Always4Brenner · 27/02/2023 19:59

Not leaving home at 19 instead of a dreadful holiday with family (the next four years hell because of that decision)
my marriages
my third I don’t think now but it has been wish I’d never been born but I’m ok now life’s great now.

Mamalamadrama · 27/02/2023 19:59

Not doing well at school.
Not being able to drive.
Buying the house we bought.

iamnottoofatiamjusttooshort · 27/02/2023 19:59

@coodawoodashooda

I should have spoken to teachers , foster carers , social workers
I kept silent .. as you do as a child
I wish I'd not asked but shouted for help

StopStartStop · 27/02/2023 20:00

Not running away from home at fourteen.

thaegumathteth · 27/02/2023 20:01

@AffIt if you were in Scotland how come you weren't one of oldest in year being summer born?

mybunniesandme · 27/02/2023 20:03

Not being assertive enough with ex

Not investing more in friendships

Buying a dyson cordless hoover

moggerhanger · 27/02/2023 20:05

Letting my mother emotionally hurt and stunt me so much. Should have told her to fuck off years ago.

That's about it TBH.

DaisyDaisyDaisyDaisyDaisyDaisy · 27/02/2023 20:08

Mistreating a friend many years ago. I asked for forgiveness but she couldn't do it. I've regretted it ever since and think about her often.

maddiemookins16mum · 27/02/2023 20:30

Smoking
Drinking
Debt

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