I have a group of friends, we have very varied backgrounds, the main thing we have in common being that we don't have anyone else much in life. They're a very valuable group to me although I'm closer to some than others. "Membership" comes and goes a bit as people's lives change.
Over the last 6 months or so one man joined us after spitting from his partner. I can't remember how that came about, someone must have invited him to join us at a social thing, probably one of the men. All good, that's how most of us arrived.
He's not in a good place in life and is very grateful to anyone who helps him. Goes a bit ott with his thanks, generous gifts and gushing cards etc. The women in the group are careful not to do anything that might make him latch onto them. Not because he's frightening or anything, just because he's so intense and we don't want to deal with having to explain we don't see him as more than a friend. It always feels like a risk that he might become emotionally involved if you show any kindness iyswim.
He was due to have breakfast with us this morning and didn't turn up. On this occasion the group was all women (we're about 50/50 normally, but it depends who's around on the day). We all know someone should reach out and make sure he's OK, but no one wants to be the person who shows him that bit of extra care.
Anyone else I'd just send a message saying "we missed you this morning, is everything OK?" but on this one I'd far rather "someone" else did it! WWYD?