We are TTC for our first baby.
However, we've been together 12 years, and I worry we are too used to it being 'just us'.
We spend a lot of time together. We have hobbies and socialise outside of our relationship, but most of our time is together.
A lot of our relationship is long conversations, nice walks, adult days out, nights out, date nights, holidays etc. So lots of quality time (which we definitely won't have as parents).
I'm wondering if any of you had children with a partner after years 'just the two of you' and if you think it made the transition more difficult?
On the bright side, DH does a lot of housework, both in decent jobs and can drop to 3 days each to share childcare, have good savings, so I think we are in a good position to have a baby iyswim. We do most things around 50/50, but I guess you never know how having a baby will affect things. I really have no reason to believe we wouldn't support each other though.
But I feel like I am grieving 'us' already and I'm not even pregnant! Just have fears about how things will change after so many years focusing on the two of us.