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WWYD if the child behind you kept kicking your seat?

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Babyleafy · 25/02/2023 18:54

I've been to the football, sat in the same seat I've sat in for 29 years 😆 It's a small lower league club usually poorly attended but a mixture of a change of fortunes and some special offers on tickets means the last couple of games have been near sellouts.

This should be a good thing and it largely is, except that some people don't know how to behave! E.g we had "get your tits out for the lads" today which I don't think I've heard in more than a decade. TBF it was short lived and self policed, they were soon shushed by other supporters.

Anyway behind me were two men and 4 boys c. 7/8 yo and one kept kicking my chair, hard.

What I did was say quietly and calmly "be a good lad and stop kicking my chair please".

I had no idea this would be wrong. When my DC were that age I'd have been embarrassed and apologetic that anyone had needed to ask. I'm not saying it would never have happened, kids do stuff, but I'd have apologised and made it stop. This is not what the dads did....

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Babyleafy · 26/02/2023 09:49

Gruffling · 26/02/2023 09:39

"the old bat's having a go at the kids"

So your actual crime was to be an older woman at a football match.

I suspect if a man had addressed the children the dad would have responded 'sorry mate' and told the boys to stop.

You did nothing wrong OP. As a parent, I've noticed that some parents are raising their young boys to be rude, entitled little f***s.

Actually the man I was with, who has the best people skills if anyone I've ever met, can smooth over any situation normally, got the same response when he tried to calm things down.

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Soozikinzii · 26/02/2023 10:02

This happened to me on a flight recently and i turned to the child and said hey that's really annoying. I must have had enough venom in my voice because they stopped immediately. You have my sympathy and I hope they aren't there ever again !

Vitriolinsanity · 26/02/2023 11:19

I find that's a very typical reaction by a parent that's not doing the parent job. First step "you don't/can't talk to my kids", second step being called abusive names loudly as though in response to a question from their acolytes. Third step, acolyte joins in.

In your particular case being called an old bat would be enough for me to contact the Clubs marketing team or the supporters association and ask them to get the CCTV out to identify the man and send a warning.

SimplySipping · 26/02/2023 11:32

Sometimes you just can't win. If you'd spoken to the parents they might well have complained you didn't speak to the child. They were probabaly just being belligerent.

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